Anxiety in the mornings

Anyone else deal with this?

My husband leaves for work at 4 in the morning. I have come to dread this time. My 2mo baby MUCH prefers my husband. Like a lot more than me. But usually when he leaves is when she wants to eat and after I feed her, I cannot get her to settle. She just cries and cries and screams for an hour or more. EVERY MORNING. I have started to develop bad anxiety around mornings now. After 20+ mins of crying/screaming after she us fed, changed, and warm I start getting that fight or flight feeling and anxiety keeps building.

Does anyone else deal with this? What do you do?

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Ahhh I’m so sorry you are going through this, no advice unfortunately, but what I’ve learned so far with my three year old is that everything is a phase with babies - both good and bad (eating, sleeping, crying etc etc) all just a phase, it won’t be forever, and you will get through it eventually, hang in there mama, you are doing great x

My second baby tended to prefer my husband at that age too. If he was screaming inconsolably, I could put him in his baby carrier and walk with him. He'd calm down pretty quickly. Have you already tried that? If so, I'd just keep trying different things to see what might work. Even things that seem crazy like taking off baby's diaper and letting her air out for a couple of minutes might work. Maybe a car ride. Maybe music.

Suzie is right in that it's probably just a phase, but I know it's so hard to handle in the moment even if you know it's going to change.

I don't know how you feel about this, but one of my friends also supplemented her baby with a small amount of formula after a nursing session. Maybe give that a try just in case maybe she's still hungry?

Deep breaths mama. She will be able to sense your emotions. It's tough , I had a bit of anxiety too. Made a little routine for us though. Fed, floor play. Sing nursery rhymes. Keep talking to her. Go for a walk in the fresh air. You've got this and are an amazing mummy xx

I had this problem with my 2mo baby, I have tried all sorts of stuff but what worked for me was I gave my partner a muslin cloth to put in his top so it smells like him then I take him out for a walk when my partner leaves at half 4 I literally walk round the block n then he settles when I get home. Hope this helps u hun I really do feel your pain I was getting myself really upset about it thinking I wasn't good enough but now I have found something that works I don't dread my mornings anymore xxx

thank you! I'll have to try that

When are you putting her down at night?

@Naomi usually around 8

What of you try to sleep feed her? So start the feed right before baby would wake up so that she sleeps through it? Hopefully she won’t wake up and need to be resettled back to sleep.

have tried. No luck

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Resentment and placing blame on partner

Firstly, please don’t judge me - I’m aware all my thoughts aren’t rational and I do already feel badly about them

I’m finding myself becoming easily frustrated, annoyed, and placing a lot of blame on my partner for many things. Now I’d get it if he was rubbish but he’s not - he has the baby straight away when he gets home from work, he lets me get ready and shower before he goes to work, he pitches in with the chores and gives me any time I ask for off. He doesn’t go out loads either.

I do a lot of the mental labour - realising we need more of and purchasing clothes, milk, groceries, deciding dinner, cooking, cleaning, thinking about what baby needs, etc.

However I just find myself annoyed and blaming him for so many things I find difficult. I know this isn’t fair, but it’s almost like I’m angry that he’s finding it easy and I’m not. Angry if I’ve just got the baby to sleep and he doesn’t think and closes doors to loudly. Angry when he doesn’t dress baby warm enough, or when he puts him in a car seat with a coat on. When he forgets a blanket or doesn’t wash his hands and plays with him. When hes snoring and I’ve just got the baby to drift off.

We have had many conversations and he has tried to take loads off me but it never feels like enough for me to stop being annoyed with him.

Am I experiencing some sort of post partum mental health issues? I find myself upset and crying a lot. any advice would help.

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My daughter is nearly 10 months old and starting nursery next month. I want to send my daughter in with lunches so I know shes eating healthy meals but I'm honestly so lost as to what to put in her little bento lunch box that will keep till lunch time and doesnt need reheating. Ive been doing loads of baby led weaning at home, but I tend to make it fresh or pull stuff from the freezer I've previously made and defrost and reheat.
Could you show me some of the lunches you've been giving your baby? Or have you been been letting the nursery deal with the food?

Parenting 24/7 is harder than going to work full time?

I’m having a debate with my partner as he’s done nothing to help since. Our 14 month old was born, I’ve done it all alone all day and all night. He gets a break when he comes in from work all night I never get a break
He try’s to tell me it’s harder going to work full time 5 days a week than parenting ALONE 24/7?
What do you think

What would u do? What should i do

So to try to explain this in the best way possible I have a very small apartment.
I opened my back door which leads directly to the laundry room of the building. Lately, I started bringing my son in the laundry room with me because he bangs on the door and tries to get out.

Today I opened the door to get my stuff out of the dryer. I saw I guess my neighbor putting stuff in the washer. It’s a very tight space so I closed the door and was planning on going back after he leave instead of crowding up the space with the baby. Plus I was in shorts and had no bra on, it was an older man.

I latched my door with the dead lock as I usually do so that I do not get locked out and I just left it that way without thinking about it.

I turned my back walk maybe about 5-7steps. My apartment is barely 15 steps front to back.
Turn around. Realize my baby is GONE he’s only 16 months!

I start yelling for him. I approach the door and I hear my son laughing…
The man had opened my door to lure my son in the laundry room with him without me knowing!!!!!!!

They were playing 🤯

He was there for no more then 20-30 seconds if that. It happened so fast, he doesn’t speak good English he’s polish
My door usually slams loud when closed, so this was done quietly…..

When I discovered that the man was with my son, I was trying to simply take my kid back in the house, but he continued on playing and I was yelling at my son that he shouldn’t be wondering without me.

No, first off I know for a fact, my son did not open the door number one. It’s very heavy and number two. He doesn’t know how to open doors yet.

And I asked the man straight out did my son open the door and he said no I did.

My son could get the door to open maybe an inch, I know that. So he must have done that and the man just decided to open it and bring my son with him.

I’m so outraged. Annoyed, uncomfortable. I live alone just me and my son.

What do I do?

I don’t know if he is maybe a visitor, I see his car sometimes but usually it’s another person who looks like him with a different car. Maybe my neighbors dad is my best bet.

Anyway. What should I do? Should I bring this to management. Should I approach my neighbor and figure out exactly who that was?

Thanks ladies wish me luck

I live in a small 2 bedroom flat. How do I keep my home smelling nice?

Especially bedroom considering dirty laundry lives in there too. I do laundry once a week because I don’t use enough to do more frequent.
But I just want my room smelling nice and cosy.

The more natural the method the better ladies 😣
I open windows everyday. I don’t get enough sunlight for plants 😭

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