What do you all do??!

This is a common issue for everyone, I think. It's a shame we have to squash quality time into small spaces, but we have to do what we can for our sanity. I found the more we tried to force it in the evenings, the more tired we became and ended up arguing about it. Quality time seems to come much easier on a day that someone can take our little one so we can have a "date day" wandering round the shops window shopping and getting some lunch can do the world of good 👍🏻 😊 if your little one is going to be attending nursery at some point then if possible use one of those days to reconnect. I've also found if we go to bed earlier and wake up an hour or so before our little one does sometimes a coffee and quiet morning chat is a lot more beneficial to our relationship than a few very tired hours at the end of the day. Some evenings we chat if we have something to say but it's mostly what you've said with TV and scrolling. I've read my book sometimes but he's still busy using electronics so don't feel connected x

It’s a common issue for sure. What helps us is planning. That’s not for everyone but with us, that’s the only way we can get everything into our days. We both work full time, look after the little one and the home, volunteer, have projects on the side, help our families… it’s a lot and we need to consciously choose to spend quality time together in a way that covers both of our needs and wants.

So we plan our week every Sunday. This way we know when we have a massage evening, a certain discussion, a film night, a pamper evening, alone time, etc etc. This way we get a balance as well, e.g., some evenings discussing investment/bills/taxes, some evenings bitching about work, some evenings watching educational videos or films together, some physical touch, etc etc. It’s important that the adult things are covered but also emotional and physical connection isn’t missing.

Experiment and see what works for you and your relationship but don’t expect it to work itself out. It rarely does.

Do you have date days/nights. We have a 5 month old baby so have even less time together of an evening as I'm usually with her now too so we make sure we have a date day/evening at least once a month where we reconnect and enjoy us time as we were a couple first 😊