My husband is absolute f***ing trash

He will call you an unsupportive, shit wife because you refuse to let him verbally abuse his own baby?... I'd happily wear that title if it means you're standing up for your baby. He sounds like a rat to be honest.

If his job is so stressful that he's taking it out on his own little family every day then he either needs to grow a back bone and take it out on the people at work causing his stress or he needs to get a new job!

I hate men like this, lazy, horrible, just expect everything but want to give nothing 😕

Honestly I'd say start making an exit plan because men like this only get worse, if you have any money you can save then do that, if you have family you could stay with until you get a place then go, or if you're in the UK you will be entitled to social housing so you'll get a council or housing association house or flat, if you tell them you're homeless and leaving a toxic and verbally abusive relationship they should hopefully fast track your application and get you somewhere.

I'm so sorry you're going through this, sending you lots of love and I do really hope you're okay.

Please pop me a message if you need to chat 💓

Then he should stay home and be a full time dad, cleaner, chef etc, while you go back to work. Let’s see how well he does

Start collections evidence of him talking to the baby this way. That can see as unfit. And potential abuse in the future to courts. He would probably just get supervised visits. I would also start documenting how he talks to you as well. And keeping EVERYTHING hush hush. Find somewhere to go when it’s D day. You said maternity leave so job isn’t an issue but I’d inform your work two weeks prior to when you
Plan on leaving cause he may try to show up there. Start a secret bank account, email, everything. Start taking boxes of stuff out of the house that you’ll be taking I’d say one a week. That way the gradual change won’t be noticeable to him. And if you’re desperate desperate to get away I’d say start making an exit plan to leave the state or the USA. Or if you’re not in the US. Leave that country. Get a new phone. Different phone plan switch once your to your new state or if you stay in that state keep it cause it’s a different phone, plan a number.

If you guys have a joint bank, the day you leave stop at bank and take all your money out. Do not touch his. He can and most likely will come after you for that. Get a recipe that you only pulled from
Your joint.

I’d definitely start looking for a new house before anything and get that secured. Secondly when he’s at work I’d slowly start to moves clothes etc in small amounts things he wouldn’t notice and leave the things I wouldn’t miss, the babies things can always be replaced as babies grow but you definitely need to get out of there as you don’t want you’re son to learn his narcissistic ways or become a misogynist

I’m in the exact same situation he is horrible but I can’t afford to leave and also don’t want to co parent cause I don’t trust him with our son 😔 I feel trapped

You don't do anything all day but he's the one that can't handle a fussy baby less than part time. What a fucking clown

From a personal perspective my best advice is to leave, I lived in a similar situation with my kids dad and fast forward to 2 years I met a man on a dating app who goes far beyond my expectations as a step dad and partner for our family. Leaving is scary, yes! As a mom we have to do what’s best for our babies even if it means instability and chaos in the midst of both parents splitting up. It’s rewarding to see the outcome in your self and your kid(s) as time passes. Best of luck mama!