Health visitor

I've got the health visitor due tomorrow morning, and I'm absolutely dreading it. Keep thinking the worst that she'll find my home inadequate and that I won't be able to have my baby at home. I've wanted to just clean everywhere today, but just feeling too overwhelmed and just did nothing instead. I know it's clean and warm, and my baby has somewhere safe to sleep etc. Why do these things make you feel like a bad person. Stressing over every little thing. I've got a freeroaming rabbit who lives in the living room, and it's like, what's she going to say about that? Overthinking everything. Roll on the afternoon when she's been and gone

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I had mine today & it was absolutely fine. It was just more of an introduction to the service and she gave me some leaflets about feeding and some vitamins, advice on safe sleeping and that’s about it really. I thought she’d be looking all over the house but she just sat in the living room! A free roaming rabbit is no different to a dog in my eyes 😊 Try not to worry - the health visitor was really nice and friendly! She was with us for no more than 20 mins! X

Did they message you? I've not heard anything about a health visitor! But don't remember them coming before the baby did last time? 🤔

I'm sure that you'll be fine, when I did have a visit previous time they didn't look around at all! Was very much tick box exercise and dissappear! X

@Marnie I just got a letter in the post out of the blue. Otherwise I wouldn't have had a clue

she phoned me a couple of weeks ago asking if she could come sooner and she sounded really nice on the phone. I'll be on my own as my o/h is stuck in work. So I'm hoping she won't be here long and have no problems with anything 🤞

I have a free roaming rabbit in our bedroom 😬 never really asked about it before when I had my first

Not sure if you know but first you don’t have to accept having health visitors at all so you can reject it completely. Or, you could ask to meet them in their office or have a phone appointment. My hv emailed me for a home visit and I asked for a phone call instead because it’s easier, less stress about tidying up and them judging you at home lol

With my first I didn’t know they rejecting their services was even an option or the home appointments

I had mine last week and she was lovely, I didn’t even have anywhere for buba to sleep yet as it’s at a relatives house. We also have an incredible lively dog and I was worried she’d think we can’t bring a baby home with that wild thing jumping about and she was completely fine. Don’t worry, I’m sure she’ll think you’re doing great!

I had my prenatal visit last Thursday. I didn’t even think to clean and my cat and dog did not respect her personal space at all😂 She was fine with it and could relate having dogs herself. They’re normal people and it has to be quite bad living conditions for them to intervene.

We just sat on the sofa and had intro chat, discussed sleep, feeding etc. I really enjoyed her coming over and I like that she’s met me before birth so knows me now to come back when things are more hectic. It was quite out the blue too as she literally phoned 3 days before. I would try not to over think it, they’re here to help.

Exactly what said 👍🏻
I’ve rejected mine. Absolutely no support after I had my first and now they want to come BEFORE I’ve even had the baby. No thanks 🥱
I will have them around once baby is born to make sure weight etc is ok.

My health visitor just sat at the dining room table didn’t look around the house at all. Asked a few questions about things we’d bought and that was it. I have a free roaming bunny too but she just stayed upstairs hv didn’t ask about pets or anything

not all counties do it. I live in leeds and they don't where I am

in our community

Nursery lunches?

My daughter is nearly 10 months old and starting nursery next month. I want to send my daughter in with lunches so I know shes eating healthy meals but I'm honestly so lost as to what to put in her little bento lunch box that will keep till lunch time and doesnt need reheating. Ive been doing loads of baby led weaning at home, but I tend to make it fresh or pull stuff from the freezer I've previously made and defrost and reheat.
Could you show me some of the lunches you've been giving your baby? Or have you been been letting the nursery deal with the food?

Resentment and placing blame on partner

Firstly, please don’t judge me - I’m aware all my thoughts aren’t rational and I do already feel badly about them

I’m finding myself becoming easily frustrated, annoyed, and placing a lot of blame on my partner for many things. Now I’d get it if he was rubbish but he’s not - he has the baby straight away when he gets home from work, he lets me get ready and shower before he goes to work, he pitches in with the chores and gives me any time I ask for off. He doesn’t go out loads either.

I do a lot of the mental labour - realising we need more of and purchasing clothes, milk, groceries, deciding dinner, cooking, cleaning, thinking about what baby needs, etc.

However I just find myself annoyed and blaming him for so many things I find difficult. I know this isn’t fair, but it’s almost like I’m angry that he’s finding it easy and I’m not. Angry if I’ve just got the baby to sleep and he doesn’t think and closes doors to loudly. Angry when he doesn’t dress baby warm enough, or when he puts him in a car seat with a coat on. When he forgets a blanket or doesn’t wash his hands and plays with him. When hes snoring and I’ve just got the baby to drift off.

We have had many conversations and he has tried to take loads off me but it never feels like enough for me to stop being annoyed with him.

Am I experiencing some sort of post partum mental health issues? I find myself upset and crying a lot. any advice would help.

THIS DUMB 🍑 MF

LET ME BREAK IT DOWN 🤣🤣

THIS MAN DRIVES AN ELECTRIC CAR WHERE HE CAN PLUG HIMSELF IN (NORMALLY DOES TO DO DOORDASH ETC)
AND IT HAD A SPOT TO WIRELESSLY CHARGE
SOME HOW WITH 4 HOURS OF WORKING HE DIDN'T EVEN MAKE 20 BUCKS TO WASH CLOTHS ANOTHER RED FLAG

TWO NIGHTS AGO
HE CLAIMS TO GO OUT TO WORK. HANGS UP ON ME MID CONVERSATION 👀👀

4 HOURS PAST I'M GETTING SLEEPY STILL HAVEN'T HEARD FROM HIM
IT'S LIKE 1:30AM I TEXT HIM NIGHT I'M MAD CONFUSED ALMOST AN HOUR LATER I ANT HEARD FROM HIM SO I CHECK MY TEXT.
THE SHIT SAYS "PHONE OFFLINE" AND SHOWS THE TIME FRAME MY TEXT DIDN'T SEND
SO I START CALLING TO CONFIRM CAUSE I THOUGHT SOMETHING HAPPENED TO HIM. HE'S BEEN IN 2 CAR ACCIDENTS 👀 NEITHER HIS FAULT

SO I GET FRANTIC MY GUY

3:14 ROLLS AROUND I CALL AGAIN SURPRISE HE PICKS UP.
CLAIMS HIS PHONE DIED WHILE HE'S HANGING OUT AND HAVING A VERY "GOOD" CONVERSATION. HE WON'T TELL ME WHERE HE'S AT OR WHO WITH. MIND YOU THIS MAN CHEATED ON ME WHILE I WAS 33 WEEKS PREGNANT.

SO AT THIS POINT I'M PISSED OFF AND I TELL HIM I'M HANGING UP CAUSE I LOOK STUPID BEING WORRIED.

HE TURNS AROUND WHILE NOT BEING AROUND THIS CHICK AND FINALLY TELLS ME ALL THE DETAILS.

BTW YES WE MIGHT BE POLY BUT HE'S POSTED HIMSELF AS SOLO POLY WHILE LIVING WITH ME!! HE THINKS I'M. STUPID WITH ALSO THIS SNEAKY SHIT.

IF I WAS TO DO WHAT HE'S DOING HE'D LOOSE IT.
BUT I'M ABOUT TO GO OUTSIDE!! CAUSE YOU PLAYING IN MY FACE

Parenting 24/7 is harder than going to work full time?

I’m having a debate with my partner as he’s done nothing to help since. Our 14 month old was born, I’ve done it all alone all day and all night. He gets a break when he comes in from work all night I never get a break
He try’s to tell me it’s harder going to work full time 5 days a week than parenting ALONE 24/7?
What do you think

What would u do? What should i do

So to try to explain this in the best way possible I have a very small apartment.
I opened my back door which leads directly to the laundry room of the building. Lately, I started bringing my son in the laundry room with me because he bangs on the door and tries to get out.

Today I opened the door to get my stuff out of the dryer. I saw I guess my neighbor putting stuff in the washer. It’s a very tight space so I closed the door and was planning on going back after he leave instead of crowding up the space with the baby. Plus I was in shorts and had no bra on, it was an older man.

I latched my door with the dead lock as I usually do so that I do not get locked out and I just left it that way without thinking about it.

I turned my back walk maybe about 5-7steps. My apartment is barely 15 steps front to back.
Turn around. Realize my baby is GONE he’s only 16 months!

I start yelling for him. I approach the door and I hear my son laughing…
The man had opened my door to lure my son in the laundry room with him without me knowing!!!!!!!

They were playing 🤯

He was there for no more then 20-30 seconds if that. It happened so fast, he doesn’t speak good English he’s polish
My door usually slams loud when closed, so this was done quietly…..

When I discovered that the man was with my son, I was trying to simply take my kid back in the house, but he continued on playing and I was yelling at my son that he shouldn’t be wondering without me.

No, first off I know for a fact, my son did not open the door number one. It’s very heavy and number two. He doesn’t know how to open doors yet.

And I asked the man straight out did my son open the door and he said no I did.

My son could get the door to open maybe an inch, I know that. So he must have done that and the man just decided to open it and bring my son with him.

I’m so outraged. Annoyed, uncomfortable. I live alone just me and my son.

What do I do?

I don’t know if he is maybe a visitor, I see his car sometimes but usually it’s another person who looks like him with a different car. Maybe my neighbors dad is my best bet.

Anyway. What should I do? Should I bring this to management. Should I approach my neighbor and figure out exactly who that was?

Thanks ladies wish me luck

Potty training ready?

Hello everyone I was wondering if my son may be potty training ready? My son is 17m almost 18m old. He is not afraid of the toilet and actually curious about it. He is always trying to rip off his diaper even when completely dry and once he gets it off he throws it around like 3 times before he walks away. However, I did hear one sign that makes kids potty ready is dry diapers at night. He still fills up those bad boys. So in all of your experiences do you think hes ready?