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This year alone my son has managed to break 8 TVs through his aggression. He is 7 with ASD and ADHD and I'm at the point where i don't know what to do. I have 3 kids and he's the middle child. Now I know he can't help it and re regulating doesn't take that long for him to hit reality again but when he blows does he blow. I don't have a single functioning door handle let on any doors stop buying nice things because everything gets ruined. He has a phobia of dirty hands so whatever is closest to him becomes the towel, I'm at my wits end trying to keep him occupied through half term already. I love them all and can't imagine life without any of them but Im so run down from having to watch him like a hawk because he can't be left unattended with his siblings as hell hurt one of them. It's just constant I want to scream. One to one he's re ally not so much just feel like it's always pillar to post and I know that being out of routine isn't helping but then I feel guilty for sticking him in hyper focus just to be able to leave the room or go to the toilet which then backfires because even with timers he's a nightmare to get off it and to top it off my youngest is 2 and absorbing everything he does and mincing it. Im just at a lose and want to know that I'm not the only one struggling with this... Please any advice is appreciated I need help

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Have you tried mounting the tv high on the wall? Or maybe getting him a punching bag/punching bag for kids or boxing training station..

Just some thoughts. Maybe he would benefit from having a constructive outlet to re regulate himself when he's feeling that anger. I can relate to some extent tho. I'm trying to find warranty papers on my kids phone today and it will be the 5th one this year. Two broken in rage.. the other 2 because they got something on them so she "washed" them 😑😩 even after I explained not to i think it was a panic response from germs. It's like a switch flips and then they come back to reality and have a broken item. It's disheartening.. and expensive.
I used to decide upon times for electronics when she was younger but I don't nessicarily anymore. Besides that only a calming game before bed not access to everything. That way she can use the devices to self regulate (she is older tho at 11 and I trust that she knows to take breaks or she let's me interrupt if need be)

I have learned from this woman on Instagram about pda autism and how her nervous system really needs to be always regulated. So switching between the different ways to keep her regulated is a must. Otherwise that's when we have our biggest problems and meltdowns.
So if I'm not a calm source of communication and comfort. She has a device. Or she might choose to get lost in her special interest even which is art. And that can help too. She seems to always need some sort of stimulating or calming the brain thing going on no matter what.. which is hard with another child who needs me as well.
I'm sorry. I know all of this is a struggle every day.

GIRL I have a 3yo who’s broken a tv, makes holes in the walls, peels paint, climbs everything no matter lack of things to use to stack just to get a knife top cabinet to open something, throws the biggest tantrums and my middle child is 2 who is also mimicking him and is more sensitive. He’s the hardest to keep entertained but will play with bugs for hours no distraction. I think it’s just the age and def doesn’t help if he has asd adhd

@ren that's the thing just can't help it but once it's broken the deviation on his face when reality hits. I've mounted tellies on walls, built a high fire place but he throws things or scales the walls. I have brought the bunch machine that lights up, the boxing bags, sensory lights, fidgets, even a trampoline just everything gets broken and the only thing he wants is technology but I can't afford to keep replacing them and the way he breaks them can't even be considered accidental 🫣
Thanks for reading and replying
As strange as it sounds nice to know I'm not the only one who goes through the struggle.

Nah sorry, I do not consider this accidental at this point! A child with ASD/ADHD can still understand actions have consequences, there's no way I'd be allowing this behaviour to continue.

My son went through so many tv’s the best purchase I ever made was switching to projectors I hope that helps

My autistic son is 13 now. We never really had a problem with him breaking things but he became aggressive at 4 years old. Scratching and hitting us. Basically attacking us. We ended up having to medicate him for aggression as other non-pharmacological interventions were not working. I hated to do it but it helped and it is what was best for all of us at the time. We’ve started to wean the medication as his gotten older. Hopefully we’ll be able to take him off of it eventually .

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Resentment and placing blame on partner

Firstly, please don’t judge me - I’m aware all my thoughts aren’t rational and I do already feel badly about them

I’m finding myself becoming easily frustrated, annoyed, and placing a lot of blame on my partner for many things. Now I’d get it if he was rubbish but he’s not - he has the baby straight away when he gets home from work, he lets me get ready and shower before he goes to work, he pitches in with the chores and gives me any time I ask for off. He doesn’t go out loads either.

I do a lot of the mental labour - realising we need more of and purchasing clothes, milk, groceries, deciding dinner, cooking, cleaning, thinking about what baby needs, etc.

However I just find myself annoyed and blaming him for so many things I find difficult. I know this isn’t fair, but it’s almost like I’m angry that he’s finding it easy and I’m not. Angry if I’ve just got the baby to sleep and he doesn’t think and closes doors to loudly. Angry when he doesn’t dress baby warm enough, or when he puts him in a car seat with a coat on. When he forgets a blanket or doesn’t wash his hands and plays with him. When hes snoring and I’ve just got the baby to drift off.

We have had many conversations and he has tried to take loads off me but it never feels like enough for me to stop being annoyed with him.

Am I experiencing some sort of post partum mental health issues? I find myself upset and crying a lot. any advice would help.

THIS DUMB 🍑 MF

LET ME BREAK IT DOWN 🤣🤣

THIS MAN DRIVES AN ELECTRIC CAR WHERE HE CAN PLUG HIMSELF IN (NORMALLY DOES TO DO DOORDASH ETC)
AND IT HAD A SPOT TO WIRELESSLY CHARGE
SOME HOW WITH 4 HOURS OF WORKING HE DIDN'T EVEN MAKE 20 BUCKS TO WASH CLOTHS ANOTHER RED FLAG

TWO NIGHTS AGO
HE CLAIMS TO GO OUT TO WORK. HANGS UP ON ME MID CONVERSATION 👀👀

4 HOURS PAST I'M GETTING SLEEPY STILL HAVEN'T HEARD FROM HIM
IT'S LIKE 1:30AM I TEXT HIM NIGHT I'M MAD CONFUSED ALMOST AN HOUR LATER I ANT HEARD FROM HIM SO I CHECK MY TEXT.
THE SHIT SAYS "PHONE OFFLINE" AND SHOWS THE TIME FRAME MY TEXT DIDN'T SEND
SO I START CALLING TO CONFIRM CAUSE I THOUGHT SOMETHING HAPPENED TO HIM. HE'S BEEN IN 2 CAR ACCIDENTS 👀 NEITHER HIS FAULT

SO I GET FRANTIC MY GUY

3:14 ROLLS AROUND I CALL AGAIN SURPRISE HE PICKS UP.
CLAIMS HIS PHONE DIED WHILE HE'S HANGING OUT AND HAVING A VERY "GOOD" CONVERSATION. HE WON'T TELL ME WHERE HE'S AT OR WHO WITH. MIND YOU THIS MAN CHEATED ON ME WHILE I WAS 33 WEEKS PREGNANT.

SO AT THIS POINT I'M PISSED OFF AND I TELL HIM I'M HANGING UP CAUSE I LOOK STUPID BEING WORRIED.

HE TURNS AROUND WHILE NOT BEING AROUND THIS CHICK AND FINALLY TELLS ME ALL THE DETAILS.

BTW YES WE MIGHT BE POLY BUT HE'S POSTED HIMSELF AS SOLO POLY WHILE LIVING WITH ME!! HE THINKS I'M. STUPID WITH ALSO THIS SNEAKY SHIT.

IF I WAS TO DO WHAT HE'S DOING HE'D LOOSE IT.
BUT I'M ABOUT TO GO OUTSIDE!! CAUSE YOU PLAYING IN MY FACE

Parenting 24/7 is harder than going to work full time?

I’m having a debate with my partner as he’s done nothing to help since. Our 14 month old was born, I’ve done it all alone all day and all night. He gets a break when he comes in from work all night I never get a break
He try’s to tell me it’s harder going to work full time 5 days a week than parenting ALONE 24/7?
What do you think

What would u do? What should i do

So to try to explain this in the best way possible I have a very small apartment.
I opened my back door which leads directly to the laundry room of the building. Lately, I started bringing my son in the laundry room with me because he bangs on the door and tries to get out.

Today I opened the door to get my stuff out of the dryer. I saw I guess my neighbor putting stuff in the washer. It’s a very tight space so I closed the door and was planning on going back after he leave instead of crowding up the space with the baby. Plus I was in shorts and had no bra on, it was an older man.

I latched my door with the dead lock as I usually do so that I do not get locked out and I just left it that way without thinking about it.

I turned my back walk maybe about 5-7steps. My apartment is barely 15 steps front to back.
Turn around. Realize my baby is GONE he’s only 16 months!

I start yelling for him. I approach the door and I hear my son laughing…
The man had opened my door to lure my son in the laundry room with him without me knowing!!!!!!!

They were playing 🤯

He was there for no more then 20-30 seconds if that. It happened so fast, he doesn’t speak good English he’s polish
My door usually slams loud when closed, so this was done quietly…..

When I discovered that the man was with my son, I was trying to simply take my kid back in the house, but he continued on playing and I was yelling at my son that he shouldn’t be wondering without me.

No, first off I know for a fact, my son did not open the door number one. It’s very heavy and number two. He doesn’t know how to open doors yet.

And I asked the man straight out did my son open the door and he said no I did.

My son could get the door to open maybe an inch, I know that. So he must have done that and the man just decided to open it and bring my son with him.

I’m so outraged. Annoyed, uncomfortable. I live alone just me and my son.

What do I do?

I don’t know if he is maybe a visitor, I see his car sometimes but usually it’s another person who looks like him with a different car. Maybe my neighbors dad is my best bet.

Anyway. What should I do? Should I bring this to management. Should I approach my neighbor and figure out exactly who that was?

Thanks ladies wish me luck

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