I need a nanny for my baby but my husband works from home and I’m concerned to leave the nanny and my husband at home at the same time.

Does my worry have no basis? My husband has never been unfaithful yet I can’t stop my anxiety

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At the root of these feelings, what makes you anxious?

My husband as far as I know for 7 years has mever cheated on me. And I still just wouldn't feel comfortable leaving another woman around my husband for hours on in a day. It's just a known rule to not do and the next you know that HO thinks it's her home and family. Nope.

It has nothing to do with your husband, more so just the absence of you not there but a female figure doing all your duties.......

It's just too much. It's a no for me and no you aren't crazy or paranoid

I’m going to be in the clear minority here but whilst your feelings are valid, they do seem without basis. There’s a huge assumption going on here that a woman would act unprofessionally or even want your husband, which is quite misogynistic tbh. On top of the fact you’re placing a mistrust towards your partner who has never given you a reason for it. I also find the comment above mine crazy. A nanny is not there doing “your duties” lol. Your duty is to your family and that looks however you want it to look like. Providing adequate childcare for your baby is fulfilling your duty.

The nanny doesn’t want to have sex with your husband.

You ladies are funny above and killing me with the assumptions, a man is a man regardless. Her not feeling like she don’t wanna leave another woman near her husband have nothing to do with insecurity or he have cheated before or she doesn’t trust her husband. It simply means she wants to protect her home. You guys have to understand yes her man might be faithful but those 8-10 hrs she’s away chances are another woman might be building a bond with him I don’t even know how to explain it for yall to understand it doesn’t matter how much you trust your husband /boyfriend you still shouldn’t leave him with another woman let alone a manny. As my grandma used to say it doesn’t matter how much you love your friends they shouldn’t be too comfortable with your husband 🤷🏾‍♀️ so yes she have the right to not want to leave a nany at her home. You can trust a nany but you don’t actually know their intentions

"A man is a man regardless" ie "boys will be boys"

I agree with the two women above.

who knows?!

I was a nanny for a long time and I am a wife. I have worked for multiple families where the male partner stays at home and it has never been weird. They have a job to do and you have a job to do. I think if you find the right person you will eventually feel better. I have also always worked for older parents who are in their 40s and I’m in my 20s. If I was to get a nanny for my own baby I would be more comfortable with someone who was either older or younger and already in a committed relationship. Be open with your husband about your concerns so he can also set boundaries to make you more comfortable. And at the end of the day you have the power to choose who you hire. You can hire someone he wouldn’t be attracted to if that makes you feel better.

Get an ugly nanny or address your concerns about your husband.

So you don't trust your partner? Why did you marry them if you thought they'd cheat so easy.
Very disrespectful

@Joseline that's a lot of words for making a blanket statement that men will always cheat if given the chance. You're really a digusting thinking person.

Lol Is your husband even actually that attractive? 9/10 these cases aren’t even truly consensual. She would be doing it to keep her job. So the real question is “is your husband a predator?”

where in my comment did I mention that men will always cheat? Get some help and learn how to comprehend please

agree 100% . What would you do? Help a girl out 🩷

@Joseline
Can't comprehend what a fool spews about -men will just cheat if their around a woman for a day-
Which would be every man in a business setting.

She's either insecure or doesn't trust her husband or both. There are no other options

a foolish woman will know another foolish woman smh 🤦🏾‍♀️ who say a she needed a nanny for that one day only

@incognito you know in this life there’s nothing you can do you just have to have confidence in yourself and trust your spouse. you need help with the baby just go ahead and get the nanny

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Resentment and placing blame on partner

Firstly, please don’t judge me - I’m aware all my thoughts aren’t rational and I do already feel badly about them

I’m finding myself becoming easily frustrated, annoyed, and placing a lot of blame on my partner for many things. Now I’d get it if he was rubbish but he’s not - he has the baby straight away when he gets home from work, he lets me get ready and shower before he goes to work, he pitches in with the chores and gives me any time I ask for off. He doesn’t go out loads either.

I do a lot of the mental labour - realising we need more of and purchasing clothes, milk, groceries, deciding dinner, cooking, cleaning, thinking about what baby needs, etc.

However I just find myself annoyed and blaming him for so many things I find difficult. I know this isn’t fair, but it’s almost like I’m angry that he’s finding it easy and I’m not. Angry if I’ve just got the baby to sleep and he doesn’t think and closes doors to loudly. Angry when he doesn’t dress baby warm enough, or when he puts him in a car seat with a coat on. When he forgets a blanket or doesn’t wash his hands and plays with him. When hes snoring and I’ve just got the baby to drift off.

We have had many conversations and he has tried to take loads off me but it never feels like enough for me to stop being annoyed with him.

Am I experiencing some sort of post partum mental health issues? I find myself upset and crying a lot. any advice would help.

Parenting 24/7 is harder than going to work full time?

I’m having a debate with my partner as he’s done nothing to help since. Our 14 month old was born, I’ve done it all alone all day and all night. He gets a break when he comes in from work all night I never get a break
He try’s to tell me it’s harder going to work full time 5 days a week than parenting ALONE 24/7?
What do you think

THIS DUMB 🍑 MF

LET ME BREAK IT DOWN 🤣🤣

THIS MAN DRIVES AN ELECTRIC CAR WHERE HE CAN PLUG HIMSELF IN (NORMALLY DOES TO DO DOORDASH ETC)
AND IT HAD A SPOT TO WIRELESSLY CHARGE
SOME HOW WITH 4 HOURS OF WORKING HE DIDN'T EVEN MAKE 20 BUCKS TO WASH CLOTHS ANOTHER RED FLAG

TWO NIGHTS AGO
HE CLAIMS TO GO OUT TO WORK. HANGS UP ON ME MID CONVERSATION 👀👀

4 HOURS PAST I'M GETTING SLEEPY STILL HAVEN'T HEARD FROM HIM
IT'S LIKE 1:30AM I TEXT HIM NIGHT I'M MAD CONFUSED ALMOST AN HOUR LATER I ANT HEARD FROM HIM SO I CHECK MY TEXT.
THE SHIT SAYS "PHONE OFFLINE" AND SHOWS THE TIME FRAME MY TEXT DIDN'T SEND
SO I START CALLING TO CONFIRM CAUSE I THOUGHT SOMETHING HAPPENED TO HIM. HE'S BEEN IN 2 CAR ACCIDENTS 👀 NEITHER HIS FAULT

SO I GET FRANTIC MY GUY

3:14 ROLLS AROUND I CALL AGAIN SURPRISE HE PICKS UP.
CLAIMS HIS PHONE DIED WHILE HE'S HANGING OUT AND HAVING A VERY "GOOD" CONVERSATION. HE WON'T TELL ME WHERE HE'S AT OR WHO WITH. MIND YOU THIS MAN CHEATED ON ME WHILE I WAS 33 WEEKS PREGNANT.

SO AT THIS POINT I'M PISSED OFF AND I TELL HIM I'M HANGING UP CAUSE I LOOK STUPID BEING WORRIED.

HE TURNS AROUND WHILE NOT BEING AROUND THIS CHICK AND FINALLY TELLS ME ALL THE DETAILS.

BTW YES WE MIGHT BE POLY BUT HE'S POSTED HIMSELF AS SOLO POLY WHILE LIVING WITH ME!! HE THINKS I'M. STUPID WITH ALSO THIS SNEAKY SHIT.

IF I WAS TO DO WHAT HE'S DOING HE'D LOOSE IT.
BUT I'M ABOUT TO GO OUTSIDE!! CAUSE YOU PLAYING IN MY FACE

What would u do? What should i do

So to try to explain this in the best way possible I have a very small apartment.
I opened my back door which leads directly to the laundry room of the building. Lately, I started bringing my son in the laundry room with me because he bangs on the door and tries to get out.

Today I opened the door to get my stuff out of the dryer. I saw I guess my neighbor putting stuff in the washer. It’s a very tight space so I closed the door and was planning on going back after he leave instead of crowding up the space with the baby. Plus I was in shorts and had no bra on, it was an older man.

I latched my door with the dead lock as I usually do so that I do not get locked out and I just left it that way without thinking about it.

I turned my back walk maybe about 5-7steps. My apartment is barely 15 steps front to back.
Turn around. Realize my baby is GONE he’s only 16 months!

I start yelling for him. I approach the door and I hear my son laughing…
The man had opened my door to lure my son in the laundry room with him without me knowing!!!!!!!

They were playing 🤯

He was there for no more then 20-30 seconds if that. It happened so fast, he doesn’t speak good English he’s polish
My door usually slams loud when closed, so this was done quietly…..

When I discovered that the man was with my son, I was trying to simply take my kid back in the house, but he continued on playing and I was yelling at my son that he shouldn’t be wondering without me.

No, first off I know for a fact, my son did not open the door number one. It’s very heavy and number two. He doesn’t know how to open doors yet.

And I asked the man straight out did my son open the door and he said no I did.

My son could get the door to open maybe an inch, I know that. So he must have done that and the man just decided to open it and bring my son with him.

I’m so outraged. Annoyed, uncomfortable. I live alone just me and my son.

What do I do?

I don’t know if he is maybe a visitor, I see his car sometimes but usually it’s another person who looks like him with a different car. Maybe my neighbors dad is my best bet.

Anyway. What should I do? Should I bring this to management. Should I approach my neighbor and figure out exactly who that was?

Thanks ladies wish me luck

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