My Inlaws took their gifts back

My parents and inlaws take it in turns to take care of our one year old. She recently had a birthday party and received lots of gifts from everyone. But my inlaws demanded that they should have their gifts in their house because they take care of her. Mind you, they're well off and the gifts they've given are the 2 for £2] from argos (they gave me the receipt) In the other hand my parents who are both nurses got my baby toys, clothes and a travel cot and oh they're not asking for their presents back. I'm just baffles me how can they be this stingy especially she's the first of everything in thier side and my partner is the only son and grandson from his grandparents.

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I read this to my husband and his like, sounds like family drama.
It's hard to ignore all drama but this one should be really ignored. you only have two options; to refuse taking the gifts or to take them. look into each scenario and see which location benefits the kids having the gifts the most☺️.

Maybe Im reading this all wrong but I dont think this is stingy? Maybe they chose gifts they were excited to have baby play with at their house? They were maybe thinking she will have so many new toys at home. Do they look after her for free? Sorry but I think its a bit crass to compare how much people have spent and their salaries as well.

Gifts are given because they’re are gifts - not expected to be returned

Someone can’t just demand a gift back I don’t care how often the child’s there. If they’re that bothered then buy toys just for their house rather that gifting them. That just seems pointless to me. What about when the child’s a little older and they have an attachment to one toy in particular they going to say she can’t take it away with her because it belongs there??

Dude prepare to be amazed at the selfish behavior of ppl that are well off

I personally got tired of them all sending crap to my house so I make them leave everything they buy at their house clutter your house up not mine

I do see your issue actually because its one thing to give a gift .. you dont give an adult a birthday present and say ‘but we’ll keep this dress I got you at my house so you can only wear it around me’
Its two different things really, it shouldn’t be presented as a birthday present at your house

Its good to have only toys there though as baby wont get as bored then!

Ignore the drama or send all the gifts back to who bought them

Or just tell them to not bother bringing anything to your house that they want at their house if they’re keeping the baby free that’s saving u money I wouldn’t complain but I’m a lot older so things like that don’t really bother me

My mum used to do this. Thankfully my son wasn’t too bothered about the toy firestation they got him. Now he’s 15 she’s trying to give it back to make space! They did have old toys at there’s though and stuff from charity shops.
I think it’s not something to mention this year but going forward when they are old enough to notice

I don’t see anything wrong with this personally, my sons grandmother often buys gifts for my son to leave at her house as she looks after him. He has tons at home so it’s a nice change lol!x

I don't get the concept of asking for gifts back for only one household. My daughter has gotten so many toys and clothes from everyone that she has enough at everyone's houses. And no one asks for anything back. When we would do our hand offs we had a bag for her filled with HER favorite things to go along. But shoot, even I have 3 boxes of MY stuff at my daughters dads house. Like. Idk how they wound up there. But no one is complaining. It's just stuff. And it's a baby. It's a gift for baby. Not a gift for them. If it's that serious they should have bought multiple of the same thing to have at each persons home. Like some stuff I've gotten multiple of for my daughter, but she is particular with NOT having multiples of the same toys. Doesn't even like playing with them as "twins". So we have had to give stuff away too. Idk. My families not as weird as your in laws. That's just weird. I wouldn't say stingy. I mean, yeah kinda would I guess. Lol.

i don’t think this is stingy, my parents have my girl every friday so they have bought her lots of presents to keep at their house so she has stuff to play with when she’s there

They could have done it way differently

Well - they want your LO to play with the toys in their house. They bought it for their house but used it as a gift. That’s fine. Who cares -

If they are cheap buy another set for your house.

My MIL buys loads of toys for my LO and they end up in her front room where she looks after my LO. I want to bring them up stairs but feel like she should have the benefit of her choices being used during her sessions.

I think they purchase the toys with the sole purpose of them being used during their sessions so they are familiar with the toys.

It’s never been a discussion though or gifted for a specific reason.

Very awkward!

But - let them be

I went through this with my MIL at my baby shower - I embarrassed her and told her to take her ‘gifts’ back. You don’t gift someone something and tell them what to do with it and where it can be used.

Are they saying they want the gifts at their home so the kids have stuff to play with while in their care ? I don’t see anything wrong with that ….

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