Hypothetically speaking: how would you respond if you school age child tells you last second “I have a project due tomorrow and…I need xyz supplies and some help.” This was assigned a week or 2 ago.

To be more clear and specific, because many of you like to find holes in hypotheticals:

-your child isn’t sick or injured
-nothing out of the ordinary has happened to the child or the family.
-this isn’t a new school or teacher

I would still help and get what they need but I’d try to make it very clear that they can tell me anytime they need help but EARLIER. I’d be pissed! Now I’m thinking maybe I’d get supplies and make them do a majority of it to feel the stress at least. I’d really want my child to know this isn’t okay or fair to mom but I’d try to convey that the best I could lol. Parenting 😒

I would still help and we would get the project done together. But we would also be having a conversation about how to manage time properly and how we can remember projects and their due date. Maybe suggest we get a big white board calendar to write them on etc.

I've been through this with my eldest before, and I was adamant if this ever happened, she would have to use whatever supplies are in the house and learn a life lesson. I half stuck to the plan, lol. We found what supplies we could use around the house, and I made sure she did it herself. Usually, I'd help if she asked, but she left it last minute. That was the last time she ever did that because her project wasn't what she wanted. She learnt, and we had a conversation, nothing argumentative or harsh. She knew that she wouldn't be doing it again.

My son has this habit but luckily since starting secondary I get all emails for his homework so I can see what’s due. It’s his cooking that winds me up when they give it out after I’ve ordered the food shop so I have to go out and get it because it’s due before the next shop is

We are still far away from this. But I would like to be the parent that asks before hand like what homework or projects do you have to help them not do this. But if I didn’t know then I’d probably help get the supplies unless it’s super late at night and we can’t leave then I might be like. Well sorry you should have told me way earlier. I cant help you right now you’re gonna have to learn the consequences of not being prepared

I did this a lot growing up. My parents would yell at me but we’d all find a way to get it done. I learned more from this than I would have from them saying “we’ll get the supplies later and you’ll turn it in late”. But also, recognize that this is a sign of underlying poor planning and organization, they likely need your guidance on this

exactly I would help but not if it became a habit

I'd help but I'd definitely have a conversation about how I'm not happy about this and how they need to manage time better

Depends on whether it’s a repeat offense or not. If my child is normally responsible and kinda just forgot for 2 weeks, I may let it slide the first time. But I will not be bailing them out again.

Depends on the age of the child honestly. If they are in high school for example. I’m not helping.

I think it depends on their age. I guess middle school I would say figure it out. But I was SO bad about this and no matter what it always happens again. I definitely had late nights finishing projects with or without help. I think the best thing you can do is help your child not make this mistake in the future and really work on planning skills regardless of how you deal with this situation. By not helping with this project, you can say “remember how stressful that was? We don’t want to go through that again. Maybe I can help you break your next project up into smaller pieces so it feels more manageable.”

Helping them get it done even if it means a trip to the store.

Depends on the age and how frequently it happens. Id say up to middle school I'll go get supplies and help some but after that (and especially if it's happening more than once ) good luck, you're on your own

I’m so forgetful myself. So honestly it’s not like I’d be too upset. Showing compassion and understanding in this situation I feel would be a lovely quality to show your child. Hopefully it rubs off on them for their kids. 😊

No judgment here and my oldest is only 5 but I would like to think I will be aware of assignments given so we can be on top of it getting done without rush. Not sure how old your kid is and again, I don't have a kid with true homework yet however I think as a parent, we should help our children out. Lesson learned perhaps that now the assignment feels rushed and everyone is stressed out, but maybe a good lesson that parent/child should be on the same page with communication:)

there no judgment felt because it’s a hypothetical.

Well If it’s the night before then it’s not getting done 😅 I don’t have random crafts lying about.

i was this child lol.

When they were small I would do ANYTHING, all nighters, running back and forth to the store. Now they’re teens and I definitely feel like that backfired a little 🥴 so now if you knew it was due ages ago, tough toenails buddy! Better find what you can in here.

If this is for your 7 year old, I’d get supplies with the child and then help him but only by following his instructions. So he is creating the project and I’d help with the labor part along with him. Hope that makes sense. If the child were older like 9/10, I’d probably only get the supplies.

I'll always help. I don't want them to stress and worry and be anxious that they have to do everything themselves always.
I'll always help, but I may structure it in a way that sets them up for a better time of it next time or in a way that is supportive but they do the work themselves. It depends

I would be so damn mad and disappointed. But I feel like I would've known when it was assigned because I look through my son's backpack daily and go over what he's learning everyday.


But to answer the poll, I'd get the supplies with him and he's doing the work.