Husband thinks I’m being unreasonable

If you are too sick to care for yourself and the baby, should your partner stay home from work or return home early to help?

My husband thinks it's acceptable for me to take care of both myself and our toddler while I’m feeling unwell and not coping. It has happened many times.

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My partner has stayed home/come home a few times while I’ve been unwell and unable to care for our son. I don’t find it safe looking after a baby if I physically can’t keep myself together and he will step in if I ask.

If it's a cold or something minor then no, would be nice to have help but I don't think it warrants then taking time off work, unless you're completely incapacitated. Eg. When I was such with gastro and pregnant and looking after my toddler it was a real struggle, but I didn't expect hubby to take time off, just help when he could. When I needed surgery and couldn't actually walk while I recovered because I was on crutches and had a newborn, yes hubby had to take time off work because I couldn't physically manage at all. So IMO probably depends on how sick you are and the circumstances

Absolutely if u feel that u are not coping at least come home early and help. However I know this is not necessarily the norm. If things were reversed I would definitely assist in anyway I could.

If you need help, you need help. Doesn't matter how sick you are. He's a parent too and it takes a village.

There's been times when I've been sick and my husband has come home early from work. There were other times when I had gastro and my husband had milk symptoms to he organised care (MIL) so we could both rest. Even if he can't be home if he can get people to help you that would be a great alternative!

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