MIL asked my husband to not tell me

How mad would you gals be if your MIL texted your hubby saying “can ask you something without you telling your wife”

I’m pissed. And this follows a long list of everything she has done since I got pregnant, starting with calling me selfish for wanting only my husband in the room with me while I pushed out a human.

If anyone wants to swap horror stories about their mil please reach out 😂

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My husband and I had to deal with some of this, and I simply told him that anyone asking to talk to us and specifically saying we couldn’t tell the other spouse, was letting someone come into the middle of our marriage. So if someone said that I would head them off to the beginning and say, I don’t keep secrets from my spouse.So if that’s a concern for you, we should end the conversation here and move onto something else.

Absolutely would get mad and flip shit.

I guess it depends what it was tbh. If it was personal about her then that's fair enough, or looking for ideas to suprise you (doubtful but still...) but yes I agree with "we don't keep secrets in our marriage" being the answer.

it was her trying to get him to turn against me and the boundaries my husband and I both set for our baby. “She feels like we set them to keep her from bonding with her grandchild.”
She has tried to guilt trip my husband three times in the past 2 months.

sounds like my mil 🙄 i despise that woman

we actually use to get along really well UNTIL I got pregnant and then I started setting the boundaries and that’s when all hell broke loose.

Your MIL can ask whatever she wants of her son. It is up to your husband to not humor his mom's unhinged behavior and maintain the boundaries you and he have agreed on. You are not responsible for your MIL's feelings about your boundaries. You are responsible for the physical and emotional health and development of your child(ren).

girl same story here, told me that i ruined her life 😭 and ever since then she’s acted sideways towards me

I blocked my MIL when I was pregnant. My peace is more important than her hs drama

She pulled that shit all the time. My husband can’t keep secrets so he always told me regardless

Why most of the wife has problems with the MIL! This is so common! It’s kinda stupid thing too!
I have such a tension every time when I heard about my in laws !
I have a long story that I can’t text on here otherwise will be days to read it! lol

My mil always asks for my partner to go round with our children but to leave me at home as wants quality time without me there 🤣 for some reason she just doesn’t want me to ever be around my own babies (even though I’m the only one who’s ever made effort to let her see them on a weekly basis while partner is at work all week) .. now he refuses to take them at all.

I use to have a amazing relationship with my mil.. then I got pregnant and now it’s like I don’t even know this woman

hellll nooo momma, my kids would not be going there without me.

omg! I heard this from another friend! Why that happened so weird!!
I’m glad mine decided to “be nice” otherwise she won’t ever see my baby! I guess she was afraid that? Lol

nope and if it wasn’t so forced, he would be naturally taking them by now but I find it sooo creepy that I’m uninvited when I birthed them 😂

I could write a book about the mistreatment I’ve received from both sides of my husband’s family, they didn’t speak to my hubby for months because of me.

oh wow! That was too much!
My in laws are nice but the only I feel weird vibes sometimes with the SIL and MIL in the past not much now but I got the bad taste of them
Maybe a resentment towards them and secretly dislike them.

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My daughter is nearly 10 months old and starting nursery next month. I want to send my daughter in with lunches so I know shes eating healthy meals but I'm honestly so lost as to what to put in her little bento lunch box that will keep till lunch time and doesnt need reheating. Ive been doing loads of baby led weaning at home, but I tend to make it fresh or pull stuff from the freezer I've previously made and defrost and reheat.
Could you show me some of the lunches you've been giving your baby? Or have you been been letting the nursery deal with the food?

Resentment and placing blame on partner

Firstly, please don’t judge me - I’m aware all my thoughts aren’t rational and I do already feel badly about them

I’m finding myself becoming easily frustrated, annoyed, and placing a lot of blame on my partner for many things. Now I’d get it if he was rubbish but he’s not - he has the baby straight away when he gets home from work, he lets me get ready and shower before he goes to work, he pitches in with the chores and gives me any time I ask for off. He doesn’t go out loads either.

I do a lot of the mental labour - realising we need more of and purchasing clothes, milk, groceries, deciding dinner, cooking, cleaning, thinking about what baby needs, etc.

However I just find myself annoyed and blaming him for so many things I find difficult. I know this isn’t fair, but it’s almost like I’m angry that he’s finding it easy and I’m not. Angry if I’ve just got the baby to sleep and he doesn’t think and closes doors to loudly. Angry when he doesn’t dress baby warm enough, or when he puts him in a car seat with a coat on. When he forgets a blanket or doesn’t wash his hands and plays with him. When hes snoring and I’ve just got the baby to drift off.

We have had many conversations and he has tried to take loads off me but it never feels like enough for me to stop being annoyed with him.

Am I experiencing some sort of post partum mental health issues? I find myself upset and crying a lot. any advice would help.

THIS DUMB 🍑 MF

LET ME BREAK IT DOWN 🤣🤣

THIS MAN DRIVES AN ELECTRIC CAR WHERE HE CAN PLUG HIMSELF IN (NORMALLY DOES TO DO DOORDASH ETC)
AND IT HAD A SPOT TO WIRELESSLY CHARGE
SOME HOW WITH 4 HOURS OF WORKING HE DIDN'T EVEN MAKE 20 BUCKS TO WASH CLOTHS ANOTHER RED FLAG

TWO NIGHTS AGO
HE CLAIMS TO GO OUT TO WORK. HANGS UP ON ME MID CONVERSATION 👀👀

4 HOURS PAST I'M GETTING SLEEPY STILL HAVEN'T HEARD FROM HIM
IT'S LIKE 1:30AM I TEXT HIM NIGHT I'M MAD CONFUSED ALMOST AN HOUR LATER I ANT HEARD FROM HIM SO I CHECK MY TEXT.
THE SHIT SAYS "PHONE OFFLINE" AND SHOWS THE TIME FRAME MY TEXT DIDN'T SEND
SO I START CALLING TO CONFIRM CAUSE I THOUGHT SOMETHING HAPPENED TO HIM. HE'S BEEN IN 2 CAR ACCIDENTS 👀 NEITHER HIS FAULT

SO I GET FRANTIC MY GUY

3:14 ROLLS AROUND I CALL AGAIN SURPRISE HE PICKS UP.
CLAIMS HIS PHONE DIED WHILE HE'S HANGING OUT AND HAVING A VERY "GOOD" CONVERSATION. HE WON'T TELL ME WHERE HE'S AT OR WHO WITH. MIND YOU THIS MAN CHEATED ON ME WHILE I WAS 33 WEEKS PREGNANT.

SO AT THIS POINT I'M PISSED OFF AND I TELL HIM I'M HANGING UP CAUSE I LOOK STUPID BEING WORRIED.

HE TURNS AROUND WHILE NOT BEING AROUND THIS CHICK AND FINALLY TELLS ME ALL THE DETAILS.

BTW YES WE MIGHT BE POLY BUT HE'S POSTED HIMSELF AS SOLO POLY WHILE LIVING WITH ME!! HE THINKS I'M. STUPID WITH ALSO THIS SNEAKY SHIT.

IF I WAS TO DO WHAT HE'S DOING HE'D LOOSE IT.
BUT I'M ABOUT TO GO OUTSIDE!! CAUSE YOU PLAYING IN MY FACE

Parenting 24/7 is harder than going to work full time?

I’m having a debate with my partner as he’s done nothing to help since. Our 14 month old was born, I’ve done it all alone all day and all night. He gets a break when he comes in from work all night I never get a break
He try’s to tell me it’s harder going to work full time 5 days a week than parenting ALONE 24/7?
What do you think

What would u do? What should i do

So to try to explain this in the best way possible I have a very small apartment.
I opened my back door which leads directly to the laundry room of the building. Lately, I started bringing my son in the laundry room with me because he bangs on the door and tries to get out.

Today I opened the door to get my stuff out of the dryer. I saw I guess my neighbor putting stuff in the washer. It’s a very tight space so I closed the door and was planning on going back after he leave instead of crowding up the space with the baby. Plus I was in shorts and had no bra on, it was an older man.

I latched my door with the dead lock as I usually do so that I do not get locked out and I just left it that way without thinking about it.

I turned my back walk maybe about 5-7steps. My apartment is barely 15 steps front to back.
Turn around. Realize my baby is GONE he’s only 16 months!

I start yelling for him. I approach the door and I hear my son laughing…
The man had opened my door to lure my son in the laundry room with him without me knowing!!!!!!!

They were playing 🤯

He was there for no more then 20-30 seconds if that. It happened so fast, he doesn’t speak good English he’s polish
My door usually slams loud when closed, so this was done quietly…..

When I discovered that the man was with my son, I was trying to simply take my kid back in the house, but he continued on playing and I was yelling at my son that he shouldn’t be wondering without me.

No, first off I know for a fact, my son did not open the door number one. It’s very heavy and number two. He doesn’t know how to open doors yet.

And I asked the man straight out did my son open the door and he said no I did.

My son could get the door to open maybe an inch, I know that. So he must have done that and the man just decided to open it and bring my son with him.

I’m so outraged. Annoyed, uncomfortable. I live alone just me and my son.

What do I do?

I don’t know if he is maybe a visitor, I see his car sometimes but usually it’s another person who looks like him with a different car. Maybe my neighbors dad is my best bet.

Anyway. What should I do? Should I bring this to management. Should I approach my neighbor and figure out exactly who that was?

Thanks ladies wish me luck

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