Mom guilt

Hi all

Just looking for some solidarity lol. I have a 7 week old and feeling like I’m not doing enough to entertain him. I try to tell myself he doesn’t need constant entertainment when awake but I just feel so bad. Some days I want to cuddle on the bed and watch tv but then I get worried I need to be doing floor or tummy time during that time. It’s hard to relax - does a 7 week old need this constant entertainment or am I perfectly fine laying in bed with him some times? I have him play on his mat often while I’m doing dishes and stuff around the house but I feel like I should be doing more. Ugh 😩

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You are fine laying with him I struggled with the same thing. I honestly still struggle with it but there becomes a point where if you don’t get enough time to yourself you will start to lose your sanity.

7 week olds dont need THAT much Tummy Time (also, if you baby wear, that is tummy time too!) I think its like 5 minutes 2 or 3 times a day or something at that age.

Laying in bed and just soaking eavh other in or smuggling while watching TV is totally fine!

They definitely don’t need constant entertainment. You’re doing great. I was horrible with floor and tummy time and all 3 of my kids are just fine

Definitely enjoy some cuddle time together while he is little! That time will go quick don't worry about constantly entertaining him. I put my son on my chest while semi laying on the couch and he would snuggle or try lifting his head (that was a good combo of both worlds). Also wearing them and doing daily stuff is lots too, especially outside!

A 7 week old doesn’t need entertainment! Enjoy the snuggles before those wake windows get longer lol.

Thank you everyone! The baby wearing suggestions have been so helpful!! I love being close to lo and being able to get stuff done lol. I also feel much better about the cuddle times

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