I screamed in front of my baby and feel so guilty

I feel so guilty. I screamed ‘fuck sake’ in front of my baby multiple times. I was so overwhelmed - she pooed in the bath, I was trying to clean her whilst she was cold and shivering, put her back in bath without mat l as it was poo covered and she was banging her head, tried to shower her but she screamed. I lost my shit and screamed. She’s never heard me scream like that and I feel awful. I feel like I have abused her and need to report myself to the police.

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Bless. Motherhood is a test of patience and some days you may not pass the test. But everyday is an opportunity to learn and do better. We’re all making mistakes and expressing frustrations but learning to do better. You’re okay mama x

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You haven't abused her hun. It's such a hard journey!!! The fact you feel so bad shows how much you love her x

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You haven’t abused her. You just got frustrated and overstimulated. We have all been there, don’t be hard on yourself it’s a hard job. Tomorrows a new day x

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I've done this loads! It can be so overwhelming and frustrating! It's just about trying to learn for next time! X

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It's not the only time she will hear that...

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but it still isn’t the way I want to respond to being overwhelmed

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Mate. I have a toddler with chickenpox and a 5 month old. Toddler is now all better but still not allowed back at nursery. I too have lost it a few times. It’s not your first and it won’t be your last. We all do it. Motherhood is hard. Don’t be too hard on yourself. ♥️

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really hope you’re joking

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don’t be so vile then, feel for your baby tbh 🥺

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this is a nasty thing to say? Unless she’s openly admitted to neglecting or abusing her child I really don’t see how this comment can be justified? I took her comment as a joke

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It was a comment on another post too x

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You shouted yes, but you didn't leave her. You picked the best option at the time to let the feeling out and that's ok! You can work on ways to deal with the overstimulated but you don't need to beat yourself up xxx

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saying what? That she’s beating her child I would assume by your comments?

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By what comments?

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by saying you ‘feel for her baby’ and using the term ‘vile’

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We've all been there. Don't beat yourself up. The fact you feel so guilty shows what a great mum and job you're doing 🙃

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I mean... I guess but like, saying "fuck sakes" is not an unhealthy expression of frustration/overwhelm. If you were saying it about her or to her, that would be different. But using these words when not directed at someone are not harmful

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Im a former police officer and am currently a prison officer. There has been no abuse here at all! Things get hard and being a mother is the hardest job. Youre doing well, dont beat yourself up about it. Youre human so take it easy on yourself!!x

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Do you have support? I do little high pitched screams with my son not in a mean way and he’ll mimic it and laugh my oldest will join in too sometimes. It’s something I’ve done when overwhelmed it’s grounding to me especially hearing their little laughs and happy screams. I’ve done with both my kids since they were babies. You may have startled her but everyone makes mistakes. I hate poopy situations like this but I have to laugh to keep from crying when they happen😅

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Forgive yourself, we all lose it sometimes. Think about what you can do next time you feel the overwhelm creeping in.

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