AITA? I left the house with the baby 3 month PPD

Husband pays for the apartment while we live in NJ, the house above our MIL, for the time being. MIL stated she never liked me from the beginning. We are first-time parents. He knows she is evil, controlling, manipulating, and b-word! She was trying to break up the entire time, blame my PPD, and stated and quoted on quote if she gets worse we have to take away the baby from her because she can hurt the baby right, I heard him say right, the first moment I got, I got into my car with the child packed a few things and left. She doesn't let me do laundry in the house she rather do our laundry for us, has looked at tags and all stating I shouldn't buy stuff from China like excuse me please dont touch my stuff especially underwears. I could it isn't healthy enough, like I'm sorry, I'm not vegan, for it isn't 250 calories per plate, oh, you have messy hair (curly) get a treatment done. Oh, you shouldn't be eating ramen as junk food like I'm sorry it's comfort food. She tried to break us up, and he knew because even he said what she even tried it to do it with her youngest son, and he has cut her off completely like do I blame him, not at all. I'm here at my aunt house telling her what happened and she told me herself I should stay here and let's check if I am that bad, so far I'm feeling happier, even though I have anxiety and miss him and I message him through social media and he still wants us to be together, video calls he is talking about us moving and so much more and i want to believe him, im scared sh#tless. He promised me that she would be there but he'll control her better and etc but it's not enough. I love him, I miss him i lost my virginity to this man and been with him 8 years, he is my world, our daughter is his carbon copy there is no way he can deny it but his mother did and accused me of sooo much, tried telling me off about it and I changed my number because of it, hence why we're messaging on social media. I feel like i tell him where I'm at and location he will eventually give that to his mother he even tells me she will be in the baby life eventually and now I'm sitting here is doing i love him that much to accept his mother back not only in my life but our daughter life too, she's controlling to me, him and eventually her and im soooo mixed about everything. I'm grateful for my aunt, but there's nothing like being in his arms, sleeping with him, and him helping with our child. My aunt is making me do the majority of everything on my own but watch the baby while I eat and shower, she's giving me tough love with the pumping more even though I'm not getting much but I love her for housing me and a 3 month old. Again, I love my husband and miss him, but I don't know if I can do this with him mom being involved even if it is from a distance. AITA?

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You’re definitely not the asshole, she clearly is. You may love him but how can you be with someone who doesn’t support you and stand up for you? He should really be cutting her off until she learns respect and boundaries especially for the way she’s treating you and she definitely doesn’t have the right to your child either

I can entirely relate, she sounds just like my partners mother..I thought about leaving him so I don’t have to deal with his narcissistic mother but I told him it’s heartbreaking to think I have to get away from him just to escape her and allow her to be the reason we break up not even him. She’s also intrusive and doesn’t know her place and because she’s controlled and manipulated him for over 20 years of his life even tried to micro manage how he raises our son discipline wise I’ve even had the thoughts about leaving, today we’re due a sit down to lay it all on the table for me to state that I’m done with but if she wants to have a relationship with our children she needs to learn to respect me and my boundaries I’ve put in place such as taking accountability 😷 the problem In you’re situation hun is the same as it was in mine, you’re partner isn’t calling his mom out on her shit so because she controls him she tries to control you and eventually how u raise you’re child

I’m so proud of you for taking the step to remove yourself and your Babygirl from such disgusting, toxic and dangerous environment. You’re so strong & evidently an amazing mother for immediately protecting your baby.
It’s no one’s fault your partner has a disgusting human as a mother. But it is his fault for not protecting you and your baby from this evil person. She’s a textbook narcissist and will do everything in her power to destroy you.
I understand you love your partner, but unless he grows a fucking backbone & puts his mother in her place, I see no hope or future for you two together.
He needs to secure a place away from her and draw CLEAR boundaries that she has no business in parenting your child or criticising you in any way shape or form.
If he can’t do that, if he can’t provide that security, I’d cut my losses and move on.
Your heart will hurt, you will cry, you will grieve, but your Babygirl and you are your #1 priority.

@Katie im honestly just all over the place I'm tired and passed out along with in the hospital right now from lack of sleep, they called him over to the hospital as my emergancy contact and I don't want him nor his mom to take the baby when she gets discharged, the fact they want to keep us in two different units aka pediatric vs adult care scares the living hell out of me

@Amal of course I'm currently in the hospital right now and the same I told Katie they have me and her in two different units hers for being sick naturally and me having no help or anything I passed out due to lack of sleep and they admitted me to the hospital as well and again I'm a mess. I don't want him to take her when they discharge her or anything I wanna sign myself out and run to my daughter, I dont feel anything but tired, he doesn't help at the moment and I'm scared out of my wits, I dont want him nor his mom to take my child from me

in our community

Nursery lunches?

My daughter is nearly 10 months old and starting nursery next month. I want to send my daughter in with lunches so I know shes eating healthy meals but I'm honestly so lost as to what to put in her little bento lunch box that will keep till lunch time and doesnt need reheating. Ive been doing loads of baby led weaning at home, but I tend to make it fresh or pull stuff from the freezer I've previously made and defrost and reheat.
Could you show me some of the lunches you've been giving your baby? Or have you been been letting the nursery deal with the food?

Resentment and placing blame on partner

Firstly, please don’t judge me - I’m aware all my thoughts aren’t rational and I do already feel badly about them

I’m finding myself becoming easily frustrated, annoyed, and placing a lot of blame on my partner for many things. Now I’d get it if he was rubbish but he’s not - he has the baby straight away when he gets home from work, he lets me get ready and shower before he goes to work, he pitches in with the chores and gives me any time I ask for off. He doesn’t go out loads either.

I do a lot of the mental labour - realising we need more of and purchasing clothes, milk, groceries, deciding dinner, cooking, cleaning, thinking about what baby needs, etc.

However I just find myself annoyed and blaming him for so many things I find difficult. I know this isn’t fair, but it’s almost like I’m angry that he’s finding it easy and I’m not. Angry if I’ve just got the baby to sleep and he doesn’t think and closes doors to loudly. Angry when he doesn’t dress baby warm enough, or when he puts him in a car seat with a coat on. When he forgets a blanket or doesn’t wash his hands and plays with him. When hes snoring and I’ve just got the baby to drift off.

We have had many conversations and he has tried to take loads off me but it never feels like enough for me to stop being annoyed with him.

Am I experiencing some sort of post partum mental health issues? I find myself upset and crying a lot. any advice would help.

THIS DUMB 🍑 MF

LET ME BREAK IT DOWN 🤣🤣

THIS MAN DRIVES AN ELECTRIC CAR WHERE HE CAN PLUG HIMSELF IN (NORMALLY DOES TO DO DOORDASH ETC)
AND IT HAD A SPOT TO WIRELESSLY CHARGE
SOME HOW WITH 4 HOURS OF WORKING HE DIDN'T EVEN MAKE 20 BUCKS TO WASH CLOTHS ANOTHER RED FLAG

TWO NIGHTS AGO
HE CLAIMS TO GO OUT TO WORK. HANGS UP ON ME MID CONVERSATION 👀👀

4 HOURS PAST I'M GETTING SLEEPY STILL HAVEN'T HEARD FROM HIM
IT'S LIKE 1:30AM I TEXT HIM NIGHT I'M MAD CONFUSED ALMOST AN HOUR LATER I ANT HEARD FROM HIM SO I CHECK MY TEXT.
THE SHIT SAYS "PHONE OFFLINE" AND SHOWS THE TIME FRAME MY TEXT DIDN'T SEND
SO I START CALLING TO CONFIRM CAUSE I THOUGHT SOMETHING HAPPENED TO HIM. HE'S BEEN IN 2 CAR ACCIDENTS 👀 NEITHER HIS FAULT

SO I GET FRANTIC MY GUY

3:14 ROLLS AROUND I CALL AGAIN SURPRISE HE PICKS UP.
CLAIMS HIS PHONE DIED WHILE HE'S HANGING OUT AND HAVING A VERY "GOOD" CONVERSATION. HE WON'T TELL ME WHERE HE'S AT OR WHO WITH. MIND YOU THIS MAN CHEATED ON ME WHILE I WAS 33 WEEKS PREGNANT.

SO AT THIS POINT I'M PISSED OFF AND I TELL HIM I'M HANGING UP CAUSE I LOOK STUPID BEING WORRIED.

HE TURNS AROUND WHILE NOT BEING AROUND THIS CHICK AND FINALLY TELLS ME ALL THE DETAILS.

BTW YES WE MIGHT BE POLY BUT HE'S POSTED HIMSELF AS SOLO POLY WHILE LIVING WITH ME!! HE THINKS I'M. STUPID WITH ALSO THIS SNEAKY SHIT.

IF I WAS TO DO WHAT HE'S DOING HE'D LOOSE IT.
BUT I'M ABOUT TO GO OUTSIDE!! CAUSE YOU PLAYING IN MY FACE

Parenting 24/7 is harder than going to work full time?

I’m having a debate with my partner as he’s done nothing to help since. Our 14 month old was born, I’ve done it all alone all day and all night. He gets a break when he comes in from work all night I never get a break
He try’s to tell me it’s harder going to work full time 5 days a week than parenting ALONE 24/7?
What do you think

What would u do? What should i do

So to try to explain this in the best way possible I have a very small apartment.
I opened my back door which leads directly to the laundry room of the building. Lately, I started bringing my son in the laundry room with me because he bangs on the door and tries to get out.

Today I opened the door to get my stuff out of the dryer. I saw I guess my neighbor putting stuff in the washer. It’s a very tight space so I closed the door and was planning on going back after he leave instead of crowding up the space with the baby. Plus I was in shorts and had no bra on, it was an older man.

I latched my door with the dead lock as I usually do so that I do not get locked out and I just left it that way without thinking about it.

I turned my back walk maybe about 5-7steps. My apartment is barely 15 steps front to back.
Turn around. Realize my baby is GONE he’s only 16 months!

I start yelling for him. I approach the door and I hear my son laughing…
The man had opened my door to lure my son in the laundry room with him without me knowing!!!!!!!

They were playing 🤯

He was there for no more then 20-30 seconds if that. It happened so fast, he doesn’t speak good English he’s polish
My door usually slams loud when closed, so this was done quietly…..

When I discovered that the man was with my son, I was trying to simply take my kid back in the house, but he continued on playing and I was yelling at my son that he shouldn’t be wondering without me.

No, first off I know for a fact, my son did not open the door number one. It’s very heavy and number two. He doesn’t know how to open doors yet.

And I asked the man straight out did my son open the door and he said no I did.

My son could get the door to open maybe an inch, I know that. So he must have done that and the man just decided to open it and bring my son with him.

I’m so outraged. Annoyed, uncomfortable. I live alone just me and my son.

What do I do?

I don’t know if he is maybe a visitor, I see his car sometimes but usually it’s another person who looks like him with a different car. Maybe my neighbors dad is my best bet.

Anyway. What should I do? Should I bring this to management. Should I approach my neighbor and figure out exactly who that was?

Thanks ladies wish me luck

Struggling with IMMATURE dad 😪

Had issues pre- baby, drug use, drinking nearly every weekend, viscous cycle calms down, behaves then back to it. Calms down again wants to change, wants to be be a good dad and loves his daughter so stops going out.. but tonight out of no where, goes to football wins a game and turns his phone off so I can’t even get hold of him. What do you with this sort of behaviour? I feel so stuck and feel like I can’t get out of this relationship as he can be so manipulative. Struggling financially so he’s also spending money we don’t have and need for our baby.
Any help or advice would be appreciated 😢