I just found out after all these years that my grandpa cheated on my grandma 😢

This is why I don’t react when ppl say things “relationships jus ain’t lasting like they used to” cuz we have absolutely no idea what our grandparents and the rest of the relatives and ancestors had been thru in their marriages to even try to compare. And unfortunately ppl are always blinded by the longevity of these old school marriages and also they think that the more kids these couples have the “stronger” or “happier” the relationship or the couple is (which often times isn’t tru) because children usually add more stress in marriages so it’s usually the complete opposite! My advice is to just have ur own relationship as ur model. Don’t look up to anyones marriages cuz u have no idea what goes on in other pplz relationships :) I’m sorry that the truth amhas come to light, I’m sure u feel like everything was lie, especially since ur grandparents are no longer even here to defend or justify their actions X

I definitely don’t think you are a pansy nor do i understand the sentiment… idk I feel like a lot of these older relationships were not as great as we imagined them to be I mean my grandma definitely had her secrets she kept to protect my mom from the truth of her dad (my grandpa) but i feel like it’s just the time… the history books in a way seem to glorify the older generations but a lot of women didn’t stay married for 50 years cuz the relationship was good it was cuz they had no way to divorce in a way that would keep them safe… I empathize for the older women of those times cuz they had it so much harder.. my grandma divorced but she also paid off the Catholic Church so she can remarry and not everyone could do that… but overall they were so isolated and the bar for men was low and no one questioning it… at least now days we have social media so that we can learn that there is better out there and that we don’t have to settle

@Katrina oh that’s tough -your family keeping it from you 🥴

@Jasmin yes this comment hit. You’re absolutely right about not knowing about what goes on in someone’s relationship