How to sleep when partner goes back to work

How are other people getting sleep if they have partners who are now back at work?! I know some people try to sleep between 8pm-12am while their partners look after the baby, but I find it literally impossible to fall asleep so early…

Our baby is 9 weeks old and might sleep between 3-4 hours at the start of the night, but then the rest of the night (eg when I come down after midnight to look after her) js so broken.

Second day of feeling utterly sleep deprived/weepy - not sure if that’s normal for week 9!?

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I think you're just going to have to get your head down for that initial 3-4hr stretch if the rest is v broken. I get it's hard - I'm a night owl and I'd struggle too. I've actually got the opposite problem - my 7vweek old doesn't like to go down properly before midnight when she will have her proper chunk of sleep (3-5hr), will go back down but likes to sleep longer in the morning until 8/9. However, I've got to do the school run for my eldest! So can't enjoy that lie in 😫 I came up to bed with her early last night to try to get some more sleep earlier, but I still didn't get my head down until midnight

My husband will look after baby from 9/10pm untill last feed about 11.30pm/12.00am, then he will have baby 1 to 2 hours before he starts work.
Being weepy at this stage because tired is normal I have spent 2 days crying because am tired as my husbands I’ll and can’t have baby.
I don’t cry lol I didn’t even cry during pregnancy lol

We split the night into two shifts. 10pm-3am is shift 1 and 3am-8am is shift 2. So if/when baby is awake at any point during that person’s “shift”, then they take care of her.
We alternate who’s on which shift daily. However, my husband is WFH so he can sleep in until 8am.

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