living with in laws

Does anyone else live with their husband and in-laws? I’m looking for advice or someone to talk to about navigating this situation, especially as a new mom. My husband and I are living with his parents to save money so we can give our daughter the best start possible. We could afford to live on our own, but things would be tight, and this arrangement makes the most sense for now. My husband is incredibly supportive and does a great job listening to how I feel, but I don’t like bringing it up to him too often because I know it affects him, too. We’re both making sacrifices, and I don’t want to add to his stress. My in-laws are great people, but it’s been an adjustment. They’re Indian, and some of their cultural beliefs and habits are very different from what I grew up with. For example, my mother-in-law can be overly involved at times. She’ll take my baby out of my hands without saying anything or bring her to another room, and while I know she just loves spending time with her, it feels disrespectful not to ask first. Another challenge is how advice is given—it often comes across as know it alls, which is hard to hear as a new mom. For instance, my baby’s umbilical cord fell off earlier than it should’ve because my mother-in-law thought it was a good idea to put a tight undershirt under her onesie to keep her warm. It wasn’t malicious, but it caused irritation, and now my baby still hasn’t fully healed, so I haven’t been able to give her a bath. When I brought it up at the doctor’s appointment, my father-in-law commented, “My wife has been waiting to give her a bath,” as if I haven’t been waiting just as much. I did have a conversation with my mother-in-law about boundaries. I explained that while I appreciate her help, I’d prefer she let me handle things unless I specifically ask. I’m my daughter’s mom, and I need to learn how to do it all myself, especially since my husband is back at work and I’m a stay-at-home mom. I also want her to feel like a grandmother, not as though she has to step in all the time. She was understanding, but since then, my father-in-law has made little side comments, which makes me feel guilty even though I know I wasn’t out of line. I’m three weeks postpartum, and I’m realizing I’ve built up a lot of uncertainty and even resentment. I used to love the relationship I had with my in-laws, and I was proud of how close we were. Now, the smallest things irritate me, and I feel bad because they’re not huge issues—it’s just hard for me to shake the feeling. If anyone has been through something similar, how do you handle living with in-laws, setting boundaries, and managing these emotions without damaging relationships?