Should my baby daddy be in the delivery room if he’s too squeamish?

Hello!
So, my baby is going to be here soon and I have some concerns about delivery. My bd has already told me that he doesn’t think he is going to be able to handle hearing me in pain, and the thought of childbirth seems to make him uncomfortable due to how graphic it is. (Like um, hello?? How do you think I feel?)
I think that it would bother me not having the father of my child present. Like, he will never be able to truly appreciate what I went through to bring a child into this world if he is not present for that moment.
Would you be pissed if your baby’s father was not present in the delivery room? I just don’t want him to be freaking out and making me nervous because he’s over there bugging out.
We haven’t attended a birth class yet, so I think maybe it’ll make him more confident about the process.
I’d love to see what y’all think about this

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I think it’s more about how you feel then how he feels ! It’s your birth event . He can been in the room but above your knees so he’s not seeing anything . Or you can give the nurses a heads up and maybe they can make sure he doesn’t faint or anything. But I hope this just nerves for him and he changes his mind on the day

Girl why should you consider his feelings it’s about you and your labor my BD feels the same way but I laid it out to him straight he needs to cut the umbilical cord it’s our first baby btw … but yea make him be there so he can witness what it’s like for us to bring their child to the world I think it’s necessary and a beautiful experience for them to see it imo

I agree, he has to be there for this moment. The point of my post was not to help my BD deal with it, really I just don’t want his presence to stress me out and heighten my own anxiety about giving birth.

I wouldn’t have anyone
That’s causing you stress or anxiety in the delivery room. It’s already an uncomfortable situation and having someone to worry about while pushing out a baby would not be in my best interest

It is really up to you and how you would feel in either situation. You might not know what you want until it's happening. I feel like he always has the option to excuse himself if he needs to. I was in labor for 14 hours and ended up having c section. My boyfriend fainted twice during the procedure, but I am still thankful he was there. And now we have a story to tell! 😉

I think he should at least be9 in the room. My husband held my leg up with the nurses when I pushed our baby out so he saw more than I did tbh 😅

Does he know he can stand behind you/rub your back/etc.? My husband will be with me the entire time and plans to stay behind me besides cutting the chord!

My ex actually passed out and hit his head, and ended up in the ER. 🙄 I begged and pushed for him to be there, to support me, and he just kept saying he was too squeamish, and would pass out. I didn't believe him and was actually angry about it. Then he did. To be honest, it was better for me without him there whining and complaining. I was able to focus and do what I needed to do. I had amazing nurses, though.

I suggest getting a birth doula just in case. 🤗

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