Ugh

So bd and I got into an argument tonight about our bedroom- he rarely sleeps in here but the last week or so he’s made more of an effort- tonight he even took a nap in here for 4+hrs.
Well we go in tonight and I lay down and he instantly starts complaining about how it smells like cat piss (the litter box is in the bathroom attached) I guess I don’t smell it anymore and just say to him well we’ll just have to start cleaning it everyday again. Complaining isn’t gonna do anything. And he starts on a tangent about how the room is just a disaster (there’s clothes everywhere) and I tell him I get it cleaned and that I need help and he took it as me blaming him but I have legit asked for months for help finishing/cleaning/rearranging the bedroom and he always does something else. 🤷🏼‍♀️ like so annoyed dunno what to do. It’s 2:30am and now I’m thinking I should get up and clean so tomorrow it’s ready for him to help! Ugh 😣

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Girl go to bed.

Na fr though go to bed because if he wanted to help or was worried about how the room look he should have helped clean up my guy complains about the room being fucked up ( I’m the cause of it being messy) he still helps out and cleans up

If he’s so worried about how it smells and how dirty it is, he should clean it himself. It’s his room too.

I always tell my husband ' if you think it should be done (cleaned/cooked etc) do it!'. Most of the times he does it

He says he just doesn’t care anymore that’s why he doesn’t help or clean anymore it’s over it and just has no care left

Are both of you making the mess?

okay i can see why he’s complaining you don’t want to sit in a filthy house but if he ain’t gonna clean up then he can stop it

yes and no- I have a small pile of clothes on the floor… he takes clothes out and just lays them around and puts crap on the bed and and I get tired of folding and putting them away so I put them all in a pile and stack them in a corner.
The bathroom I keep clean and then he’ll come in and shave and leave a mess or he’ll put stuff on the counter expecting me to put it away I guess? Like you know where it goes? put it in the cupboard

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