Struggling to eat at nursery

So my little boy started nursery last week. This week has been his first full day week. I’ve been called in today to pick him up because he just wouldn’t eat or drink anything offered to him. When I got there I gave him his water bottle and he drank it straight away.. I’m so torn I go back to work next week. Has any other mum had this issue?

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Sometimes children take a little longer to feel comfortable to eat and drink at nursery. Will the nursery allow you to take in some of his fave snacks just so that he is at least having something to eat?

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I’m having the same issue, no advice just can relate 😔

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So they have a no food from home policy but I carried put some snacks from home in his bag and they gave it to him but he didn’t want it still. Soo hard and stressful!

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oh gosh I hope they get better.. my little boys not the greatest eater. He’d have breast milk only if he could

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Just as some comfort, my little boy was on ‘hunger strike’ at nursery for a good 3-4 weeks! I used to pack 2 bottles to make sure he was still having something and wouldn’t be starving as I knew he’d drink them.
He started with eating the puddings, so yoghurts and sometimes fruit and custard and slowly started trying more, but I work at the same nursery at the other end and tbh the food can be a bit odd, lots of lentils and beans mixed in things so I’m not surprised he doesn’t eat a lot of the offerings, neither do the 3 year olds in my room 😂. It will get better when he settles in more, it takes time 🩵. xx

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My boy also isn't a great eater at home and would rather just breastfeed if he had his way. He wouldn't eat at nursery for a good week and a half but in the last week he's suddenly started eating really well there (way more than he does at home). I know how worrying it is when they're refusing everything but honestly your little one will get there and will eat when they're properly hungry! X

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My youngest didn’t eat anything at all for the first 3 days he did. Then ate like a sparrow for the next few days that he went. But the nursery are doing all they can, and he has no way to communicate with words that he doesn’t feel settled, so he’s letting everyone know that way instead 🙃 He will not starve himself, and when they’re offering him food frequently, trying different ways and different things, I trust that he’ll eat enough to get by. Then he normally breastfeeds straight away, and then I offer more food at home too.
It won’t last. But it feels absolutely horrible whilst it’s happening!!

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We had this issue and I got called to collect him and he’s now been there 4 months and today he’s had two breakfasts 🤣🤣 it took about a week but he settled and realised he needed to eat there or he wasn’t getting anything!

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My son did the same and was starving when I picked him up and ate everything in the car before we even got home. But he has started eating a little more now I think it takes time.

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I work at a nursery and we had this with one of our babies. It literally took us taking them to the fridge and picking out different foods to try. They ended up eating the blueberries and we noticed they absolutely LOVED them. It got them to start eating and then everytime they went near the kitchen they would point at the fridge and go "booberries, booberries" 😂 it was so cute

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These success stories are making me hopeful! I just got off the phone with nursery & he’s still going on his hunger strike 😩 not even water.. my poor little bubba x

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funny you say this today’s lunch was a five bean chilli lol, he won’t even take his bottle but hopefully soon he’ll get used to the environment! Happy your boy made a turn xx

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Resentment and placing blame on partner

Firstly, please don’t judge me - I’m aware all my thoughts aren’t rational and I do already feel badly about them

I’m finding myself becoming easily frustrated, annoyed, and placing a lot of blame on my partner for many things. Now I’d get it if he was rubbish but he’s not - he has the baby straight away when he gets home from work, he lets me get ready and shower before he goes to work, he pitches in with the chores and gives me any time I ask for off. He doesn’t go out loads either.

I do a lot of the mental labour - realising we need more of and purchasing clothes, milk, groceries, deciding dinner, cooking, cleaning, thinking about what baby needs, etc.

However I just find myself annoyed and blaming him for so many things I find difficult. I know this isn’t fair, but it’s almost like I’m angry that he’s finding it easy and I’m not. Angry if I’ve just got the baby to sleep and he doesn’t think and closes doors to loudly. Angry when he doesn’t dress baby warm enough, or when he puts him in a car seat with a coat on. When he forgets a blanket or doesn’t wash his hands and plays with him. When hes snoring and I’ve just got the baby to drift off.

We have had many conversations and he has tried to take loads off me but it never feels like enough for me to stop being annoyed with him.

Am I experiencing some sort of post partum mental health issues? I find myself upset and crying a lot. any advice would help.

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THIS DUMB 🍑 MF

LET ME BREAK IT DOWN 🤣🤣

THIS MAN DRIVES AN ELECTRIC CAR WHERE HE CAN PLUG HIMSELF IN (NORMALLY DOES TO DO DOORDASH ETC)
AND IT HAD A SPOT TO WIRELESSLY CHARGE
SOME HOW WITH 4 HOURS OF WORKING HE DIDN'T EVEN MAKE 20 BUCKS TO WASH CLOTHS ANOTHER RED FLAG

TWO NIGHTS AGO
HE CLAIMS TO GO OUT TO WORK. HANGS UP ON ME MID CONVERSATION 👀👀

4 HOURS PAST I'M GETTING SLEEPY STILL HAVEN'T HEARD FROM HIM
IT'S LIKE 1:30AM I TEXT HIM NIGHT I'M MAD CONFUSED ALMOST AN HOUR LATER I ANT HEARD FROM HIM SO I CHECK MY TEXT.
THE SHIT SAYS "PHONE OFFLINE" AND SHOWS THE TIME FRAME MY TEXT DIDN'T SEND
SO I START CALLING TO CONFIRM CAUSE I THOUGHT SOMETHING HAPPENED TO HIM. HE'S BEEN IN 2 CAR ACCIDENTS 👀 NEITHER HIS FAULT

SO I GET FRANTIC MY GUY

3:14 ROLLS AROUND I CALL AGAIN SURPRISE HE PICKS UP.
CLAIMS HIS PHONE DIED WHILE HE'S HANGING OUT AND HAVING A VERY "GOOD" CONVERSATION. HE WON'T TELL ME WHERE HE'S AT OR WHO WITH. MIND YOU THIS MAN CHEATED ON ME WHILE I WAS 33 WEEKS PREGNANT.

SO AT THIS POINT I'M PISSED OFF AND I TELL HIM I'M HANGING UP CAUSE I LOOK STUPID BEING WORRIED.

HE TURNS AROUND WHILE NOT BEING AROUND THIS CHICK AND FINALLY TELLS ME ALL THE DETAILS.

BTW YES WE MIGHT BE POLY BUT HE'S POSTED HIMSELF AS SOLO POLY WHILE LIVING WITH ME!! HE THINKS I'M. STUPID WITH ALSO THIS SNEAKY SHIT.

IF I WAS TO DO WHAT HE'S DOING HE'D LOOSE IT.
BUT I'M ABOUT TO GO OUTSIDE!! CAUSE YOU PLAYING IN MY FACE

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Parenting 24/7 is harder than going to work full time?

I’m having a debate with my partner as he’s done nothing to help since. Our 14 month old was born, I’ve done it all alone all day and all night. He gets a break when he comes in from work all night I never get a break
He try’s to tell me it’s harder going to work full time 5 days a week than parenting ALONE 24/7?
What do you think

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What would u do? What should i do

So to try to explain this in the best way possible I have a very small apartment.
I opened my back door which leads directly to the laundry room of the building. Lately, I started bringing my son in the laundry room with me because he bangs on the door and tries to get out.

Today I opened the door to get my stuff out of the dryer. I saw I guess my neighbor putting stuff in the washer. It’s a very tight space so I closed the door and was planning on going back after he leave instead of crowding up the space with the baby. Plus I was in shorts and had no bra on, it was an older man.

I latched my door with the dead lock as I usually do so that I do not get locked out and I just left it that way without thinking about it.

I turned my back walk maybe about 5-7steps. My apartment is barely 15 steps front to back.
Turn around. Realize my baby is GONE he’s only 16 months!

I start yelling for him. I approach the door and I hear my son laughing…
The man had opened my door to lure my son in the laundry room with him without me knowing!!!!!!!

They were playing 🤯

He was there for no more then 20-30 seconds if that. It happened so fast, he doesn’t speak good English he’s polish
My door usually slams loud when closed, so this was done quietly…..


When I discovered that the man was with my son, I was trying to simply take my kid back in the house, but he continued on playing and I was yelling at my son that he shouldn’t be wondering without me.

No, first off I know for a fact, my son did not open the door number one. It’s very heavy and number two. He doesn’t know how to open doors yet.

And I asked the man straight out did my son open the door and he said no I did.

My son could get the door to open maybe an inch, I know that. So he must have done that and the man just decided to open it and bring my son with him.

I’m so outraged. Annoyed, uncomfortable. I live alone just me and my son.

What do I do?

I don’t know if he is maybe a visitor, I see his car sometimes but usually it’s another person who looks like him with a different car. Maybe my neighbors dad is my best bet.


Anyway. What should I do? Should I bring this to management. Should I approach my neighbor and figure out exactly who that was?

Thanks ladies wish me luck

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Struggling with IMMATURE dad 😪

Had issues pre- baby, drug use, drinking nearly every weekend, viscous cycle calms down, behaves then back to it. Calms down again wants to change, wants to be be a good dad and loves his daughter so stops going out.. but tonight out of no where, goes to football wins a game and turns his phone off so I can’t even get hold of him. What do you with this sort of behaviour? I feel so stuck and feel like I can’t get out of this relationship as he can be so manipulative. Struggling financially so he’s also spending money we don’t have and need for our baby.
Any help or advice would be appreciated 😢

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