Are 8 year old boys so hard to entertain or have them to have a hobby? What do you guys do with your boys to make sure they spend their time wisely?

My 8 year old son goes Monday through Friday to school, throughout the week he has math club and taekwondo, he will soon start soccer again , however when the weekend comes he is just like to spend time on the tv or iPad, nothing wrong with that although I would love for him to have a hobby that he spends time in and focus and become so good at it, everything I suggest is boring or if he tries something, HE STARTS WITH I AM SO TIRED, this is so boring blah blah,

How to approach your son? I have been so patient and calm, or I let him be?

Let me add: he does not the iPad throughout the week only weekends.

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Sounds like he does a lot already, but if you want him to develop interests beyond what you’ve already scheduled for him, take the iPad away on the weekends, too. Boredom leads to imagination. -Signed, a very mean former teacher 😂

Does he like board games?

thank you 😊

depends on the board game and if I play with him, I can play with him and sometimes my time is limited so once I say after certain time I will stop playing then he just goes back to play iPad or watch tv, I try to give him ideas and he is like, all that’s I boring, I get frustrated I don’t show it to him but I want him to be more creative. Anyway, thank you 😊

So he's an only child?

Sounds like he has many hobbies with the stuff he does throughout the week? Just like adults need chill time, kids do too. My sisters daughter was constantly doing things as a child and then struggled extremely bad with “boredom” or down time. It made it difficult to help my sister out and watch her. Maybe take time each day where you okay a board game or do something together to bond but I’d allow that time to himself as well. Sometimes I have to really get my son to start the board game or activity and then he ends up getting into it (he is 9)

he has a younger brother, he turned 4 so some things the 8 year old play, the 4 year old cannot play, however they play most of the time and of course as normal fight all the time 😂😂 hehe.
perhaps this is just me, I feel he should also be doing more 8 year old stuff in his free time, so he has more options where to go when he is bored.

That was me when I was his age, I was bored and I would go to play guitar or some piano, or try to draw, or sing or invent something, I feel he would just go to the easy path, iPad, tv and that personally frustrates me. Maybe something I should work on. 🤪🤦🏻‍♀️

ok, awesome thank you for this, perhaps this is also something about me, when I was a kid, I was enrolled in so many activities that I always had something to do when I was bored.

So I feel that he should be doing more that will help him in the future,
I need to get better at understanding he is not me.

Thank you thank you 🙏

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Is this insanely overpriced? I posted on my local support group for parents of kids with disabilities asking about summer camps....

I got a message about a daycare that will be holding 3 different summer programs that run for 3 days in the last week of July for 450 dollars per child. 450 dollars for 3 days of "camp" seems like a rip off to me especially being for kids with disabilities???

Going out

Where are you taking baby out atm while they are still just a few weeks old?

What age will you start taking them out properly e.g. to coffee shops, classes, theme parks (for older sibling), play dates, farm etc?

Overwhelmed…..

I’m so fucking overwhelmed and frustrated I’m done being a mom!!!! I get ZERO fuckin help from my husband. Only help I get is my mom and that’s if she comes get us. I don’t have a car. Can’t go for a walk. No park. No nothing but a 4yr and a 3month old in a two bed 1bath apt 24/7 365 being basically a single married mom!!!! I’m over it!!!!!!!

Having a mental breakdown

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I feel like such a shit parent. I just want the best for my kids but I feel like im failing them in so many ways right now. I wish we could afford to get the best most healthiest organic food for them and I wish I had the time/energy to make them all their food scratch so I know what theyre taking in is good for them. With the prices of literally everything raising, how are we supposed to do this?
My entire body aches today from either a virus or a autoimmune flare up and then to find this out just has me feeling like shit in every way. I hate all of this.

Is this normal parent child bonding to you?

Overheard my husband and his brother discussing their next trip to forbidden planet… and he tells him he plans on bringing our 1 year old along. Now I don’t know a whole lot about it but from what he’s explained before it’s a fiction/ fantasy comic/ book/ toy store. He’s always said it’s packed and he is in there for ages. Not sure why they’d think that’s a fun thing for a 1 year old to be dragged to, as well as the fact that our child has never been exposed to any cartoons, screens, fiction books etc and won’t be any time soon. She would have no clue what she’s doing there and will get bored quick.
I’ve spoken to him before about pushing his interests onto our children, understandable when it’s sharing a toy or short book or pictures that seems normal, however I’ve had to address him in the past regarding purchasing silly items to only take a quick picture or video of child with it and share it with his family making out that our child is interested in or even sometimes obsessed with them just because she’s holding them and looking at it (what kid wouldn’t 🙄). He’s been doing this kinda thing since she was a baby, she’ll crawl and he’d record her crawling to one of his toys and plaster it on his family group about how much she likes the toy now… as if she had a choice in the matter when it’s purposely put in front of her while all other toys removed, y know? I know he thinks I’m being extra but I’m an educator, I value teaching children and babies to explore appropriately, fostering their interests and following their lead. I feel my husband just wants her to be dragged into such places or ideas so he can be performative, and from my observation he only bonds with his siblings over avengers, Pokémon etc etc because they were glued to the TV and YouTube as kids and still are. I feel strongly about exposing her to these things at such an early age but I don’t think he understands. I totally get wanting to share your interests with your child but I mean just because I love makeup, I’m not about to show my child tutorials and get her a kit. I want him to notice what she loves doing, and work with that. Not just what brings him pleasure. His style does not feel natural or appropriate to me.

MIL passive comments

My husband and I agreed we had the fortunate opportunity to have me be a SAHM. Our finances are thankfully sound and we don’t have to worry!

Of course my MIL doesn’t know this we don’t speak about our finances to her bc we are doing better than 90% of the family and don’t want to rub it in anyone’s faces.

I don’t plan on working until our kids are grown right now we have our first kid 11 mo.

Every single time my mother in law is around without fail she brings up how I could work or bring in income. My husband has told her my job is mom and right now we aren’t looking for a job i am enjoying being a mom. I know it maybe my MIL insecurities but it’s very annoying to hear it feels like I am not doing “enough” as a SAHM alone.