10 weeks of 3 hours sleep at night

I really need some advice or help. We’re 10 weeks into the sleep regression and it’s just getting worse. I’m really at a loss of what to do anymore and I cannot cope any longer. My LO is waking every 30 minutes at night. I use to get at least a 2-3 hour stretch at the beginning of the night but as soon as he’s down to sleep he wakes every 30 mins until morning 😩. We co-sleep and EBF, he’s gaining weight perfectly so there’s no problem there. It’s not even just stirring a bit it’s waking up and full blown screaming until settled back down. And it takes ages of multiple different techniques to get him to back to sleep only for him to wake again 30 minutes later 😅. No health professional has been any help and everyone around me just keeps telling me it will get better but that is just not helpful anymore. I cannot go on with such little sleep and no I can’t nap during the day as he’ll only contact nap for 30 mins max if I’m lucky.
We’ve tried the Ferber method and cried for 2.5 hours straight and it just did not feel right to continue with it- we did this for 3 nights and hearing your baby scream constantly was horrific. He did not stop screaming once for the whole 2.5 hours and yes I feel so awful but even worse that even that didn’t work. I just don’t know where to go from here…

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Are you cluster feeding before bed to make sure baby’s full?
Are you feeding when he wakes?
Have you tried a dream feed around 20-25 minutes into sleep cycle….before screaming happens and to ideally help soothe baby and to help link cycle?

Have you tried not co-sleeping and using a next 2 me crib?
Have you considered putting baby in own room to see if this helps? I know it shouldn’t be until 6 months but some Mums notice a massive improvement in baby’s when this happens

Have doctors considered silent reflux? Wondering if baby is in discomfort when lying down?
Any other medical considerations?

Sorry you’re going through this and I hope you have good support. You can see why they use sleep deprivation as a form of torture😢😢

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God this is so awful to read and I'm really sorry you're going through this. It's so unfair how some people end up with such difficult situations! How old is baby?
I agree with the suggestions above...

It might be worth looking at soundasleepguru on Instagram. Obviously she isn't free but she has a lot of good free advice on her page and her stuff is all tailored to that specific baby and research based. I think you probably need some professional help in the form of a sleep consultant (like her) particularly if you've already tried the Ferber method. But obviously that means paying for something which may not be an option for you.

You will sleep again, you will get there but I know right now this must feel like torture!! Sending you strength xx

Oh also my boy would only contact nap but then I tried feeding him in bed with me and then slowly slipping him down bedside me on bed with my arm still round him and he will sleep like that and I can at least close my eyes but he's only naps for 30-40 mins so I agree it's v difficult to sleep

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