Is it just me?

So im seeing a lot of friends and people i know praising their babies for being so chilled and perfect and they have zero to no issues with their babies. It makes me feel like im doing something seriously wrong. My 15 week old is currently going to sleep screaming and crying and when he wakes up hes crying. It takes so long to soothe him but lately we’re having more tears than smiles. His outbursts make me scared to leave the house because he gets to a point where im surprised hes still able to scream and he hasnt lost his voice. Im at a loss. Is it me? Am i doing something wrong? Im EBF-ing him. He struggled with reflux and i dont know if my OH has overdosed him on gripe water over the last 15 weeks. Its his go to to soothe him as much as i ask him not to over do it. I have so many questions; is he teething? Developing? Regression? Me? Breast milk issues? Pain? Severe gas issues? We’ve been taking him to an osteopath to help but we’re only one session in. Im slowly loosing composure as i hate taking him out incase of a screaming fit. Drs are useless and tell me ‘hes a baby’ with no other explanation so im at a loss. Anyone else struggling or am i just currently a terrible mum?

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The fact you are worried makes you a brilliant mum ❤️ if you think something is wrong keep harassing the doctors! But honestly my baby is far from a perfect quiet baby and I also get nervous taking her out so you aren't alone!

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You are not a terrible mum, please try not to think that 💚 some babies are chilled others aren't. 🤷‍♀️
My first one was a high-maintenance baby, whilst my second is a lot more relaxed. I don't think I'm doing anything majorly different.

Visiting an osteopath sounds very useful. We went to a baby chiropractor with my first, and it made a difference with gassiness and ability to sleep. I cant remember 100%, but I think we had 3-4 sessions.

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Hey! My 14 weeks old is exactly the same! Lots of tears at the moment, he keeps pushing the bottle away and then he cries because he is hungry. He suffered from reflux in the past but I thought he was over it, I called the doctor which as you said was useless…
I am sure these are phases and they will get over it but I know how you feel because I find myself crying with him most of the time 💙

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Thank you all for your lovely messages of encouragement. Just feel a lost cause at the moment and i need to know im not alone. Its just so tough at the moment because when hes happy hes the light of my life and i love him so much but when hes sad it breaks my heart to see him hurting and i cant help but think its my fault

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Are you following wake windows and giving him a long enough nap? Could he be overtired? Huckleberry has some useful information on this. It’s so hard you’re doing amazing xxx

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im trying my best to but theyre changing. I know how his day should go!

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If it makes you feel any better my 15 week old was a very content baby until now and she screams the house down before naps and her night time sleep and refuses the bottle then minutes later downs the whole thing. Putting it down to teething as she’s been showing lots of signs for a while now and also the 4 month regression. Hang in there, I’m sure it’s just a phase and that’s what I keep telling myself x

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thank you, it does make me feel better knowing im not the only one but it doesn’t at the same timr because of how shit it is for them and us

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We’re with you! He was 15 weeks last Sat and Monday he woke up a completely different baby. Very grizzly & less smiles :(

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