stepson sharing a bedroom with daughter

Hi all, I’m looking for honest feedback regarding a situation I’m being made out to be the villain within please. Totally fine if our opinions aren’t mutual, I want honest feedback to see if I need to reevaluate my opinion. Myself and my hubby have a two bedroom house, at the moment we are unable to afford an upgrade, especially with myself being on maternity leave. One bedroom is myself and hubbys, the other is my daughters. It has been spoken about by stepsons mum, that stepson should share a bedroom with our daughter and to make the room shared. I don’t agree, stepson comes to us on weekends and has his own room at his house, so surely my daughter should have her own room here and not have to share? my stepson is also 13, my daughter is 4.5 months old, i don’t believe it’s appropriate. hubby agrees with me but having arguments with the sons mother. stepson sleeps on our couch that converts into a bed when he’s here, he has his own personal wardrobe, personal pillows and duvets and kitchen cupboards, it isn’t as though we isolate x

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Bio mom doesn’t get a say since it is your house. Can you put up a curtain or something in the living room so step son has a little more privacy?

Completely agree with you! Bio mum needs to grow up and see the bigger picture of it. My stepson is 7 and my daughter is 2 and they wouldn’t share a bedroom. Personally the age gap is too much even though it’s only 5 years and I don’t think my stepson would even be comfortable/want to share a room with his baby sister. I said to my partner it’s a shame we haven’t got a bedroom big enough to put a partition wall up to split the room into 2 and he said he still wouldn’t let them share a room like that 😅

I agree and had the same issue when I was pregnant. My son is now 9.5 months and my autistic stepson is 13. Even though they’re both boys, I absolutely did not feel comfortable with them sharing a room, albeit mostly due to complicated circumstances that I can’t go into detail about. Luckily we’d previously built a log cabin in our garden, and SS moved himself down there for his own privacy and thankfully loved it. Especially because he’s autistic, him making the decision himself took it away from us. 😅😮‍💨 3 months later, our son then moved into his cot in the second bedroom. It probably cost us £4.5k, it was like giant Lego that slotted together. but my fiancé did all the work himself, including electrics, so that saved us money. Just a possible idea perhaps? Xx

I think it’s fine. Everyone who it actually involves is happy, nobody asked for SS mums opinion.

That age gap isn't appropriate to share

I agree with you, I don’t think it’s appropriate to share.

Definitely not appropriate and your daughter needs personal space in a home she is in 24/7. X

Not appropriate to share

My bfs kids mum wanted all 3 of her children to share my 1 year olds small bedroom each weekend 😂 I said absolutely not. Your not a villain what so ever. Your baby shouldn't have to give up her space x

Completely agree, it is not appropriate for them to share and she should have her own bedroom too!

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