Struggle to sleep

My girl suddenly couldn’t settle on her own months ago, no idea what triggered it but after many nights of going in and out trying to settle her, I gave up. We now just lay with her until she’s asleep. I personally can’t leave her to cry, doesn’t sit right for us. I think it’s some sort of separation anxiety maybe? Could you try sitting next to the cot until she falls asleep? It is so hard though when they won’t settle, do whatever works for you both!

I have to go to bed when she does as she finds it better. By the time she's asleep I'm knackered lol x

I can only leave by sneaking out when he’s asleep 😅 he’s never put himself to sleep. I put a lullaby on for a short while and he still has white noise playing, this helps mask the noise of sneaking out and closing door etc! If I’m tired I just lie down on the floor next to him, and hold his hand through the cot. He soon lies down then; and again I wait until he’s asleep to sneak out x

Yeah we went through this for about 2 and half months when she turned two, had to sit on the floor next to cot, and sometimes hold her hand and wait to go to sleep before sneaking out. She'd been fine leaving up til then. She's been waking up in the night upset as well. We've got to the point I can stroke her face for a minute and say mummy's going to stand by the door until you fall asleep, she nods and repeats it back to me and I stand outside the door with it open a bit. Over 3/4 nights she would keep getting out of bed but I kept calmly putting her back into bed, gradually reducing the amount of words I say to her, until I'm just putting her in bed saying nothing. First night it took 30mins, 2nd night maybe 20mins, 3rd night 7 mins and after that she generally stays in bed when i leave, sometimes get up once or twice to test it. Bit different with the sides up I guess, but my mums done it with my niece, either telling her or helping her lie back down and standing by the door, and she eventually got it.