Feeling sad 😢

I found out I was pregnant a week before my son turned 2. I was so happy I was going to give my son a sibling and he will have a best friend for life. I’ve miscarried now and feel like I’ve failed my son. The age gap is getting bigger and bigger.
Me and my sister are close in age (2 year gap) and my husband is a twin. So we both know how important it is to have a sibling.
I wish I started trying for baby no 2 sooner. It doesn’t help that I am 38 years old and a few pounds heavier!

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Hi! I could have written this post myself. I’ve gone on to have a total of three pregnancy losses now. My husband in an ā€œIrish twinā€ though, so they are 10 months apart šŸ˜‚
Literally everything.
I’m also 38. Let’s be friends!?

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Couldn’t wrote this myself. I felt like I’d failed my son by not being able to give him a sibling even tho he’s only 18mo

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Right there with you. I’ve had two losses in the last 12 months. Have gone from a 2yr2month age gap to my son being a minimum of 3.5 earliest. I’ve had to work really hard with my counsellor to talk about the positives of my son getting older.

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Same. I’m now trying for a 4 year age gap…the gap keeps getting bigger and I turn 37 next month.

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