My child is now over 2 years old and objectively such an "easy" toddler: sleeps through the night, eats well, loves nursery and has average toddler behaviour (generally sweet with tantrums sprinkled in).
Here's the thing: I still feel overwhelmed. I dread the days when we are alone the entire day, my husband works from home so he is still in the house with us but I just don't know how to fill the day.
I get more sleep than some other toddler parents but I am always exhausted. I feel tired and overstimulated and I cry almost every day. I feel like a failure, like I'm heartless and that my child deserves better. My child always cries when I say that daddy has to work, I am never the favourite parent. I know I shouldn't take it to heart, but it hurts every day.
Is anyone else going through this? Has anyone found a way to get out of this hole?
Thank you for reading x
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My toddler is exactly the same, a "textbook" child if you want to call it that! And I still feel overwhelmed too. I find getting out the house really helps even if it's just taking them to the park for an hour especially now as it's getting a little warmer. You are not a failure, you get up with your little one everyday, make sure they are fed, clothed and loved. Have you thought about maybe exploring some therapy? Sounds like your going through a tough time and it may help ❤️

I totally agree with Dione. I feel a lot of these emotions myself, and have been thinking maybe I should seek some therapy too. Some days are better than others. I think it’s definitely worth it if you are able to afford it. And if not, try and speak to your GP. I’m sorry it’s so hard at the moment.

Hi, you may have vitamin deficiency. It's very hard to want to do anything when you are lacking energy 😪 see if GP can offer you some blood tests. Also do you get time for yourself? Do you ever spend time away from your child, doing things you love? Seeing friends etc.. I find that when I get to have my own time I feel I can give more to my child/partner afterwards.

I have felt like this and have days I still do. What I find helps with days I’m on my own is having a plan and breaking the day up so do something in the morning (like play dough) then get ready and get out for a bit (shops/park/walk or just a drive so he naps) then lunch and then we do something else like play in the garden or in his room then it’s dinner bath and bed. If I don’t have a plan I struggle to get through the day.
I would say if your that tired get some blood tests done, I did and ended up having low folic acid and an underactive thyroid and these do cause extreme tiredness and my moods where all over the place. I still have weeks where everything feels too much but I’m a lot better now I have medication for the thyroid and got the folic acid sorted x

I feel overwhelmed every day.

I feel this