Cheating BD

I’ve just found out my BD was cheating on me whilst I was pregnant, whilst I was in hospital and for a couple of weeks after birth as well.
For context, my baby is now 6 weeks old so still a newborn.
BD and I live together. I had no idea anything was going on at all. Towards the end of the pregnancy I had GD and hypertension, I was still working full time and honestly I was mostly focused on my pregnancy and nesting so everything between us was rather mundane. I didn’t have the energy to make him my priority.

He seemed really supportive, did all the housework and went to work etc. I saw a few changes in his behaviour towards me but nothing too drastic and I thought it was caused by the stress of pregnancy and that maybe I was just making things up in my head because of hormones. I saw him smiling at his phone sometimes and just brushed it off.
A girl from his work messaged me on Facebook with some screenshots 2 days ago. Turns out they’ve had an affair from mid December at least until pretty much now, held hands and kissed at work, he promised her he would leave me but from what he told me and the messages I’ve seen I don’t think they ever slept together or saw each other outside of work.
Now that it’s all come out he ended it with her and said that he got involved with her because he thought that I didn’t love him, just stayed with him because of our child and that he craved attention which she gave him at the time but that he has no feelings for her and that he wants to work on this to keep his family and will change.
I’m so torn. I love this man to bits and I’m in so much shock, I’m so traumatised by the fact that he was talking about our relationship with her and he told her that he didn’t love me and wanted to leave me. He’s now changed his tune completely. I want to leave but at the same time I know it would be very hard right now, especially with a newborn. Do I give him another chance? Has anyone been in this situation? Help 😭. Please try to not judge for considering staying. I always thought I’d leave a situation like this but when I actually found myself in it I honestly didn’t know what to think.

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