Newborn and toddler, help 😂

To parents who have newborns and also a toddler , how an earth are you coping ?😂 my house is trashed, I'm a state and all I want to do is go to the shop which seems like an impossible task

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Same! I’m absolutely frazzled 😅😂

@Grace I actually hid in the bathroom earlier and had a little cry 😂 I'm in a constant state of "what the fuck is going on?"😂

We aren’t coping full stop😅😭The tantrums screaming crying, ima join in when they’re both crying. I attempted to get out the house this morning it was fine for 10 minutes but all went tits up 😭

I'm the same! Wondering how on earth I can do this!

I shipped mine off to grandparents as the attitude of my 3 year old was sending me to an early Grave. Hoping she comes back more pleasant after having some 1 on 1 attention

Same 😭😭. Counting down the hours for my husband to come home. My house was tidy this morning and now it’s a state!

It’s extremely hard & so different second time round isn’t it. My partner goes back to work tomorrow, I’m nervous to say the least. Im breastfeeding both of mine & that’s been a massive challenge 🥵

Toddler goes to nursery still Monday - Wednesday otherwise I absolutely would not be coping. I find if I get him involved in something that helps me, it keeps him out of mischief for a while when he is at home

The mess is another level!! 😂 our Doona is making getting out of the house a little more manageable 🙌🏻

@Katie I did this on the weekend , she caught a stomach bug stopped there till Sunday n came back worse 😂😭

I'm not 😅

I’m absolutely following this my toddler decided she can pick up her little sister I can’t leave the baby anywhere xx

jesus ! I bet you were terrified , I've taken to putting the moses basket on my kitchen counters where she can't reach 😂 that or the baby wrap

I'm glad I'm not in this alone girlys 😂😭

I have my 14 month old in nursery two days which helps but otherwise, him and my 2 month old is definitely work! I do what tash does, if I ever get a spare five minutes I’m setting up something for later! Putting out bits for brekkie, laying towels and pjs out ready etc. life saver for sure. I do little bits of tidying constantly otherwise it’s chaos when it gets on top of me and out of control! X

I'm so lucky my toddler loves independent play because my newborn will not accept anything less than being in my arms 😅 we are 4 weeks in and it's just mental. We also do lots of visits to play places to burn some energy

@Naomi we tried soft play to give me a break and toddler ended up with a stomach bug so that back fired 😭😂 don't reccomend a stomach bug with a newborn it's hell

@Sophie girl when do you get a break ?🥲

@Jess oh noooo, what a nightmare. Definitely want to avoid that at all costs 😂 we usually go to the imagination play places. Toddler mornings are usually so quiet too

I've yet to try those we will when the kids go back to school bc germs 🤢

when the big one goes to bed at 7:30 (thankfully a good sleeper and still sleeps through till 6) I make sure everything is done before 7 so I can be in pjs and with the little ones on the sofa! It’s my only must have haha

@Sophie I'm taking notes 😂

making the most of what I call the potato stage! Hahah. Quietly nervous for when the little one is crawling 🙈

I’ve had one day on my own when my partner went to work at a friends house it was hell as I had my MIL dog I had a nearly 3 year old and my new born it was awful luckily my partner isn’t going back to work until next week so my son will be back at nursery so hopefully it’s slightly more easier x

didn’t think she would really do it but she did show us how she did it. Honestly am literally taking the baby with me now so she can’t get to her without me knowing😂 honestly this isn’t for the weak xx

glad it’s not me who’s baby doesn’t like being put down which makes it harder with a toddler xx

So glad it’s not just me who is frazzled!
I keep telling myself “it gets easier” and trying to get out of the house where I can as my toddler is much better behaved (even though the amount of stuff I have to take is painful!).

We had a lot of tears/ meltdowns for the first 3 weeks from my 2 year old but it does seem to be calming slightly 🤞🏻🤞🏻
(I’m finding breastfeeding hard for the sole reason that my baby likes to spend a lot of time on me and it means my toddler gets fed up!)

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Primary Caretaker Resentment

I am the primary caretaker for my daughter, my partner and I live together & are engaged but I knew it would be this way as he works long hours. I’m struggling with not feeling resentment towards him when I’m responsible for 90% of stuff.

I adjusted my hours so one of us could be home with her some of the time (previously we both worked full time, I’m now part time), I do 5/7 bedtime routines a week, I feed her every meal & I plan her meals. Even though he knows what she eats, he always insists on asking me what to buy, he says it’s because I’m home so it’s what I’m happy to make but he knows it annoys me, he knows how long stuff takes to make, I just ask for quicker meals on the days I wfh.

He also shows no interest in her birthday, her first easter. etc. He says I’m the better planner but I told him it doesn’t come naturally to me & I wish he would show some interest in her first holidays.

I feel like I think about our daughter 24/7 & he thinks about her maybe one day as week.

For context: He works 9am - 11pm roughly Wed-Sun. My Mum has her on a Monday & I am off Tuesday afternoon so he only has her alone Tuesday morning.

He can be very helpful & clean the kitchen or sterilise bottles after work but we have gone through phases where he grumbles about this.

He’s always thinking of things to help me but they hardly ever involve him taking actions, I’m relying on my family a lot which is hard for me.

I feel as though it would barely be different if I was a single mother but I don’t know what I expect him to do given his working hours, it’s just hard to not get annoyed.