Attachment!

My son is almost 10 months old and over the last week has become incredibly attached to me. I cannot get anything done, he won’t play with his toys and just wants to be held by me which isn’t like him. He isn’t like it with anyone else and everyone else seems to get a much nicer experience with him than me. Does anyone have any advice or been in a similar situation? I know it’s natural for them for form attachment but this is making it very hard atm😅🥲

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Following cos oh my goodness same!! Also bedtime has become an absolute nightmare. Totally fine going down for his naps in the day, but as soon as it comes to nighttime, he will scream for two hours and only calms down if we take him out of his room. I think it’s because at this age they become so much more aware of being separated from you and can get separation anxiety and become wary of people who aren’t their primary caregivers. Sorry this isn’t much help but just to say I feel you and if anyone has any advice, it would be very welcomed!

@Tégan the thing is I can give him to anyone else and leave and he will be absolutely fine but whenever I’m around I can’t lie it’s horrible at the moment

Peak age for separation anxiety to occur unfortunately, I'm not sure I have any useful advice but would just say to try and leave him with a responsible carer for a little while so he gets used to being left and knows that when you do leave, you always come back.

@Kim he is used to being left with someone else and always has been 1-2 times a week since he was 8 weeks old. It’s when I’m around that it’s a problem he is absolutely fine with anyone else

Ah I see, that's a little more difficult to navigate! Other than distraction and waiting for the phase to fizzle out, I'm not sure what else to suggest, I'm sure I'll be in a similar position at some stage, which I'm not looking forward to as I'll be going back to work at the time... Hopefully it's just a bit of a development thing and he settles soon. 🤞

Is he teething? I’ve noticed my son is getting more clingy since he has another tooth coming in

Baby wear whilst doing other things? x

@Gem what do you mean sorry? Like a baby carrier?

Yeah in a baby carrier! x

@Gem I can’t really see that it’s going to make the situation any better tbh as surely I’m aiding that attachment. And also my back can’t take carrying him around all day in a carrier🤣😅

Aiding the attachment isn’t a bad thing but obviously if you’d struggle to carry him that makes things more difficult!

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