Attachment!

My son is almost 10 months old and over the last week has become incredibly attached to me. I cannot get anything done, he won’t play with his toys and just wants to be held by me which isn’t like him.

He isn’t like it with anyone else and everyone else seems to get a much nicer experience with him than me. Does anyone have any advice or been in a similar situation? I know it’s natural for them for form attachment but this is making it very hard atm😅🥲

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Following cos oh my goodness same!! Also bedtime has become an absolute nightmare. Totally fine going down for his naps in the day, but as soon as it comes to nighttime, he will scream for two hours and only calms down if we take him out of his room. I think it’s because at this age they become so much more aware of being separated from you and can get separation anxiety and become wary of people who aren’t their primary caregivers. Sorry this isn’t much help but just to say I feel you and if anyone has any advice, it would be very welcomed!

the thing is I can give him to anyone else and leave and he will be absolutely fine but whenever I’m around I can’t lie it’s horrible at the moment

Peak age for separation anxiety to occur unfortunately, I'm not sure I have any useful advice but would just say to try and leave him with a responsible carer for a little while so he gets used to being left and knows that when you do leave, you always come back.

he is used to being left with someone else and always has been 1-2 times a week since he was 8 weeks old. It’s when I’m around that it’s a problem he is absolutely fine with anyone else

Ah I see, that's a little more difficult to navigate! Other than distraction and waiting for the phase to fizzle out, I'm not sure what else to suggest, I'm sure I'll be in a similar position at some stage, which I'm not looking forward to as I'll be going back to work at the time...

Hopefully it's just a bit of a development thing and he settles soon. 🤞

Is he teething? I’ve noticed my son is getting more clingy since he has another tooth coming in

Baby wear whilst doing other things? x

what do you mean sorry? Like a baby carrier?

Yeah in a baby carrier! x

I can’t really see that it’s going to make the situation any better tbh as surely I’m aiding that attachment. And also my back can’t take carrying him around all day in a carrier🤣😅

Aiding the attachment isn’t a bad thing but obviously if you’d struggle to carry him that makes things more difficult!

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I've finally done it

I have finally done it. I have finally become the trope, the stereotype.

I have become bitter, resentful, and very overwhelmed and overloaded. I am very unhappy and hit burnout. And I snapped at my husband last night. I work full-time, and work has been very busy so im working late a lot. Im also in grad school. I also have a toddler that has become VERY clingy with me. My husband works shorter days but commutes, so he usually gets home after me by an hour or more. When he gets home, he usually heads to the restroom for at least 30 mins when he gets home. And now my toddler doesnt want anything to do with him. So im doing all the toddler duties until bed. I dont get 5 mins to myself. Not for almost 2 years. I finally hit my wall. I have also, somehow, become my MILs medical ride service and she somehow has an appt every week, it seems?! Shes not sick!! My husband was complaining that he needs to change routine to fit in a workout sometimes, and I lost it. I have been BEGGING for 5 mins to myself for months. I have been telling him how im not good, im going to burn out for months. And between his attitude and him complaining (which really got me b/c he blames me for not being able to work out?! Saying I need help when he gets home so he just cant workout now) I just lost it completely. I told him how unfair my life has become and I have the entire mental and emotional load and it is just not fair. He got mad at me and said "hes trying" when hes literally not trying at all. What do I do?? No one is taking the load from me! And im done and dont know what to do now.
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Is this clever or cruel?

My husband and i were talking and with social media and the internet in general being a terrifying dumpster fire, we are trying to figure out the best way to keep our son safe while still teaching him how to safely be online and moderation.

We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

AITA?

This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.

If your partners parent passes away

And you and that parent didn't get along are you still go to the funeral?

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Has anyone else been told it won’t start until May?

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