toddler wont go to sleep in the house

he will only go to sleep in the car.
im at my wits end seriously.
he just screams & cries for as long as i can stand it. never settles. starts banging on the door or his bed with his hands feet & head.

i am ready to walk honestly. im shit at this. im at the point where i am biting my hand to stop screaming in pure anger & frustration. and yes i know he is only a toddler. but i get no help. its just me. and has been for the last 2.5 years! im fucking exhausted, fed up & i hate this.

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How long has he refused to sleep in the house?

couple of weeks. once hes asleep its fine, if he wakes up he will go back to sleep. but naps in the hoise are no more and getting him to sleep at night is impossible too without a drive. im 90 mins in currently and he just will NOT go to sleep. he is tired. he is emotional. but so am i

My toddler (2.5 years) used to go to sleep without any fuss - until we took the side off his cot. Now someone has to sit in his bedroom with him until he falls asleep. Have you tried sitting quietly next to his bed while he falls asleep? My son does about 20 minutes of playing/chatting/ getting out of bed and being put back in before he finally settles and falls asleep. Could it be he’s just lonely and doesn’t want to/can’t work out how to sleep by himself? Sending you a lot of strength because I know how tough it is when you just want them to go to sleep!

Can you put some relaxing music on? When my lg used to get upset, I used to put some relaxing music on my phone and put it outside her room so she could hear it, she eventually calm down and fall asleep.

She used to be a nightmare going to sleep as she didn't wanna be on her own and wanted constant company.

I tried changing her routine around and she got alot better.

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Is that true? Nursery/ school teachers

I was chatting with a friend who works with children, and we got onto the topic of nurseries and schools in the UK. I mentioned that I’m not very familiar with the system and that I’ve seen stories about bullying and teachers not always stepping in, which worries me. So I asked her how situations like that are usually handled.

She then said something that really stuck with me. She believes that staff sometimes form opinions about parents based on things like how they dress, where they go on holiday, what activities their child does, and how they respond to issues at school. According to her, parents who seem more “easy going” or less affluent may not always be taken as seriously, while more assertive or well off parents might receive more attention for their children.

My friend is one of those people who looks this things and I noticed during the past years, but I’m the opposite I don’t set opinions on those things, so I just wanted to know if there is any truth to this in your experience?

Are family members entitled to your kids

I need to know if me and my husband are making the right decision for our family.

If you and your sibling have a history of really bad fights that turn verbally and mentally abusive, your sibling has disrespected your partner multiple times, are you going to talk about it, forgive and forget and still allow them in your child’s life or push them away because you won’t allow that behaviour around your child. And does them being family give them any right to having a relationship with your kids

Nursery fee’s (UK)

How much (may I ask) is everyone who pays for nursery actually paying.
As of April our fee’s have increased but I must admit I’m in shock and embarrassed if anything to admit we can’t afford the additional £65 a month it is costing us.

We currently pay £161 now, our son goes
8am-6pm Monday and Friday. As we both work obviously he goes term and none term time.

What do I do he’s in a “contract” technically with the nursery. It’s currently taking 3 days wages to afford the £161 we pay now. I understand we use the government top up pot but he’s only claiming 20 out of the funded hours and I don’t know what to do!

Help!

How do people make marriages work

I got married to my husband when I was 17 he was 19. Got married cause I got pregnant with my oldest. My husband wasn’t faithful to me and years later I wasn’t faithful to him. I tried ending the marriage. But he wanted to try to make it work out. Well I have been trying but everytime I turn around my mistakes that I have made he throws them in my face or he will make comments about how I I haven’t messaged any other guys and all this and that. I’m so over it. I love my husband and I wanted to make it work but I’m to the point to where I just want to crawl under a rock and just let go. I feel like I’m not wanted and I feel like I’m an even worse mother. I’m on medication for depression and axienty but I haven’t been taking it daily I only take it when I feel like I need it. I just don’t know where I fit in in my marriage I don’t know what I want to do with my life. I’m 27 I have 4 kids and I just feel like I’m alone.

Stupid comments made by husbands

Anybody elses husband or significant other just make comments without ever thinking? have total foot in mouth syndrome or is it just mine? For example my friend and I were talking on the phone about how her baby daddy cheated on her after I got off the phone my husband proceeds to tell me that now that he is a dad he understands why men with kids cheat but he does not condone it. thoughts?

Going out

Where are you taking baby out atm while they are still just a few weeks old?

What age will you start taking them out properly e.g. to coffee shops, classes, theme parks (for older sibling), play dates, farm etc?