Do I remind my boyfriend about Mother’s Day?
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Tell him to take the baby because you're going to celebrate mothers day alone with some peace and quiet and just go to the spa.
Tell him to make an effort! Why would you tip top around the fact it’s Mother’s Day! If you feel you want to be treated on this day then just say
What's his expectations for father's day, I would definitely celebrate the day with your little one, make your own plans if he can't be bothered.
That's just lousy. I'd communicate how the lack of effort makes you feel!! You literally can't go into any store the mo before mother's day without seeing mother day shit everywhere, just no excuse.
If you have to remind him about it, it won't feel special either. I would just leave it and do something for yourself either alone, with your son, or all three of you. Make it special for yourself. I'm not in a relationship so I ordered my own gifts and put my 8 month old daughter's handprint on a card with the year on it so I could save it as a memory of our first mother's day together. We are going to go do some activities together next week like the zoo or aquarium and maybe go to a thrift store to look for toys and/or clothes. If he's not putting in much effort for mother's day, you don't need to put in a ton of effort for father's day. You can, you just don't really have to since he's not putting in effort. Definitely communicate how you feel, but I'd maybe wait until after mother's day just in case he does have something planned and also so your not feeling more upset on the actual day.
@Diana he works the first half of the day even though I asked him a couple weeks ago to request off. He forgot about that too.
@Chrystina yeah I’m to that point of no longer begging for effort. We’ve been together almost 6 years and pretty much our whole relationship I’ve had to beg for effort but it still hasn’t changed.
@Anita I’m not too sure because he doesn’t express anything but I put way more effort into Father’s Day and every other holiday but it’s not reciprocated. I’ve definitely taken a step back on getting him gifts since we had our son though.
@Lianna I didn’t even think about taking him somewhere myself. I have bad social anxiety but I’m trying to push myself to go out more so the zoo would actually be a great idea because he hasn’t been there yet.
@Tiffany I know! He also listens to the radio everyday and they’ve been talking about it for a while
The zoo is a great idea! I have bad social anxiety, too, so I totally understand that.
Op, I hate to sound so harsh, but after 6 years I don’t think it’ll change. Just start doing your own thing with your kiddo. I’m sorry he’s being daft (only respectable word I can think of because I only see a glimpse of y’all’s life together) but just do a craft with your kiddo. Paint their feet into hearts or their hands into flowers, trace their hand and make a bouquet of the hands for yourself. Doesn’t mean as much but it’s your kiddo. They are only this small once and when they wake up the next day, they will be bigger. I’m sorry this is happening to you. It’s complete bs to me.
i’m working on lowering my expectations… its hard.
my husband can do whatever he wants and im planning on ordering myself a bunch of new clothes on amazon
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i even sent HIS mom flowers, he would’ve forgot
Honestly hun. Just leave it. If he can’t remember, that’s on him. Make yourself a craft with your kiddo. Spend a lazy day with the kiddo. Let the housework slide, get fast food if you want. Spend the day with the person whom you are their whole world. If he can’t remember/do things. Don’t beg. Heck even meet up with another mom on mother’s day and hang out.