Do I remind my boyfriend about Mother’s Day?

My boyfriend and I have a two year old and the past two mother’s days he’s always gone out the night before by himself because “it’s faster and easier if he just goes himself” to get flowers and a card. I appreciate the thought but it doesn’t feel like he puts effort into it. I think he forgot about it again because he hasn’t said anything to me. I’m at the point I don’t even like the day because there’s no planning or effort and he doesn’t do anything for me with our son. Should I say something or just leave it?

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Tell him to take the baby because you're going to celebrate mothers day alone with some peace and quiet and just go to the spa.

Tell him to make an effort! Why would you tip top around the fact it’s Mother’s Day! If you feel you want to be treated on this day then just say

What's his expectations for father's day, I would definitely celebrate the day with your little one, make your own plans if he can't be bothered.

If you have to remind him about it, it won't feel special either. I would just leave it and do something for yourself either alone, with your son, or all three of you. Make it special for yourself. I'm not in a relationship so I ordered my own gifts and put my 8 month old daughter's handprint on a card with the year on it so I could save it as a memory of our first mother's day together. We are going to go do some activities together next week like the zoo or aquarium and maybe go to a thrift store to look for toys and/or clothes. If he's not putting in much effort for mother's day, you don't need to put in a ton of effort for father's day. You can, you just don't really have to since he's not putting in effort. Definitely communicate how you feel, but I'd maybe wait until after mother's day just in case he does have something planned and also so your not feeling more upset on the actual day.

he works the first half of the day even though I asked him a couple weeks ago to request off. He forgot about that too.

yeah I’m to that point of no longer begging for effort. We’ve been together almost 6 years and pretty much our whole relationship I’ve had to beg for effort but it still hasn’t changed.

I’m not too sure because he doesn’t express anything but I put way more effort into Father’s Day and every other holiday but it’s not reciprocated. I’ve definitely taken a step back on getting him gifts since we had our son though.

I didn’t even think about taking him somewhere myself. I have bad social anxiety but I’m trying to push myself to go out more so the zoo would actually be a great idea because he hasn’t been there yet.

I know! He also listens to the radio everyday and they’ve been talking about it for a while

The zoo is a great idea! I have bad social anxiety, too, so I totally understand that.

i’m working on lowering my expectations… its hard.

my husband can do whatever he wants and im planning on ordering myself a bunch of new clothes on amazon

i even sent HIS mom flowers, he would’ve forgot

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