Help!!

Ladies, baby is nearly 3 weeks old, still cluster feeding every 2 seconds so I'm not sleeping at all.. yesterday my breast was so painful and rock hard at the bottom, I think it was a clogged duct and I went in the bath and massaged it and it's so much better now, no hard part and no pain.. however, today I can't get warm, I'm exhausted, banging headache and I have been sick/no appetite.. is this from the clogged duct? Will it go off now that it's fixed or is it something more?

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You’d usually still have pain with mastitis but I’d definitely get it checked asap as you’ll need antibiotics if it is x

Have you eaten? Have you drunk lots of water? I found in the beginning I was so delirious with sleep deprivation that I wasn’t taking proper care of myself. Eat some good home cooked food, drink lots of water. And treat yourself to some yummy chocolate. Then put your feet up and rest while you cluster feed. Honestly it’s so tough at the the start but it does get easier and they do ease off with the cluster feeding

@Rachael when does it start calming down? I haven't been able to eat today without sicking it up, been drinking water though xx

I’d massively recommend looking into cosleeping to help with the sleep deprivation 🫶🏼

@Lauryne I'm so worried that I'm overly tired and will hurt him

Ok so it starts to calm down after a few weeks and you’ll have some days where they just sleep and eat a little here and there. Then they’ll have a mad cluster feed for 4 days or something and then it’ll even out again. And then just when you think they’re feeding on a reasonable schedule they’ll cluster feed like mad overnight or something. Breastfeeding is so exhausting. You need to try and get some rest in between feeds whenever you can- I found it easier to stop thinking about sleeping overnight and going to bed at nighttime and just thinking about having naps throughout a 24 hour period. 4-5 hours of sleep in 24 hours is doable. But just don’t expect them to be from 11pm - 5am for a while. Stay strong you’re doing a great job

Not sure why but the links I posted aren’t working for me, but it’s @happycosleeper on Instagram if they don’t work for you x

@Rachael ah that makes sense! Thankyou! At the minute hes feeding most during the night and I can't even get 5 minute naps between feeds lol, will definitely try and nap during the day! It really is the hardest thing I've ever done 😫 xx

@Lauryne omg he's also nearly 3 weeks and i noticed i fell asleep last night with him on me, I was so tired! I checked the time though and it was literally 5 minutes if that, but i will definitely have a look at this account and give it a try! Thankyou hun xx

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