Extreme guilt

I’m 37 weeks pregnant and the more the days go on the more guilt I’m getting towards my 2 year old is this normal?

I keep thinking I’ve made the wrong choice, I’m extremely excited for this 2nd baby but I just feel awful towards my daughter I keep doing things with her and thinking “in afew weeks time this will all be different” or thinking about how it won’t just be us 2 and that im kind of letting her down.

I’ve had feelings like this the whole pregnancy but atm it’s rampant!

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I felt like this towards the end of my pregnancy with our second, awful mum guilt I think it’s really normal! If it makes you feel any better, my first born adores her baby sister. I have a 21 month age gap and it’s amazing! Hardwork but amazing. Try not to worry to much, just enjoy making some 1-1 memories now, mum guilt never goes I don’t think so just try not to worry and take your last few weeks of mum of 1 life slow🩷 you’ll still find opportunities to have 1-1 time with your first once baby is here don’t worry xxx

I felt like that most the pregnancy with my second and worrying about not getting as much time with my first, but it’s made me really cherish and make extra time for that 1-1 time with him 🤍

Mine have a 16 month gap and they love each other now 🥰 they both smile and she is trying to babble back to her brother.

The whole way through my pregnancy with #2 I just felt guilty. It would keep me up at night and I'd just wonder if we had made a mistake. I was so exhausted whilst being pregnant I felt like I couldn't give my oldest (18 months) the attention she deserved.

I was induced with #2 and when we dropped oldest off at my mums on the way to the hospital I cried the entire journey thinking I'd made a huge mistake.

#2 is nearly a month old now and watching their relationship is just incredible. Oldest loves her brother, wants to help out, gives him constant hugs and kisses. It still is hard trying to split my time between them (#2 is breastfed) but even though I'm still tired it's nothing compared to pregnancy tired.

Honestly when baby arrives the guilt will melt away!

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Can someone pls help i keep making this post and nobody is responding

My boyfriend booked a trip for us to go to mexico for a week as my push present. I have severe anxiety leaving my 7 month old with my mom. I know she will be in good hands but she’s exclusively breast fed for the most part but accepts bottles just fine. i have all my pumping parts packed and will pump when baby normally eats but i don’t want baby to forget me or have latch issues when i return!! any mommas ever experience this?

When does it get better?

I was crying on the phone with the perinatal mental health team today and the lovely lady, bless her, kept assuring me that it gets better. I kept telling her I hope so because people have been saying that since having my LO and it just feels like it keeps getting worse. She assured me it gets better....

Rant/WWYD

My sister (youngest, 24) has two kids, 4 & 1, and i (oldest, 30) just have my one who’s 6mo old right now, so i ask her for advice or call her to vent about things sometimes. Well im tired of her turning around and telling my other family members that I’m “losing my sh*t.” Literally have not lost my sh*t nor have i ever freaked out to her about my baby, i just call her to talk and tell her what stage my baby is in or talk through how im feeling, but she chooses to tell people that im like a complete nutcase or something which worries me that my family is going to start being judgmental about me as a mother or looking at me funny like I’m some fragile ticking time bomb.

What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.

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Sorry if this sound stupid but how are we doing the hot shot method?
Are we boiling the kettle and letting it cool a little before adding to hot flask? Then with the cool water do you boil the kettle and leave it to cool right down before putting into another flask?
My baby brain is fried trying to work out the easiest way!

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Heya, my 3 week old daughter is currently exclusively breastfed and I’m not pumping. Can anyone recommend the best way to share the load with my partner? At the moment I’m doing all the feeds/burbs/settling and my partner is sleeping through which obviously isn’t sustainable, I’m trying to work out the best way to get him involved. Any advice very much appreciated!

i just want someone to talk to😔😔😔😔

when things get hard i have nothing not any support from my partner im convinced he doesn’t even love me anymore but thats another story
I have a 3 yo and a 2yo that are in bed sleeping only just now. I have a 1 yo that’s been sleeping from 8 o’clock to 10 o’clock. I just gave her her milk and she would’ve gone back to sleep if it wasn’t that
I lost her dummy earlier in the day when I went out
so now she won’t go back to sleep and she won’t accept any of the other dummy’s i have!😔😔and it’s 10 o’clock and I’m gonna be up until 3 o’clock with her and when she does want to go to sleep i won’t have any dummy to give her she will accept and she won’t sleep without it i just wanna cry 😔i have nobody to talk to and i feel so alone i get no support from anybody i’m so tired and i don’t feel well to top it off😔