Clingy, poor sleep - nursery??

My little one started nursery last week and does 4 days. He's in for the full day and is only napping for 2 40ish minute naps. He's become so clingy and in turn sleeping so badly, waking frequently and struggling to go down.

Anyone else? I'm currently 2 hours over his bedtime and really really struggling 😭 just looking for musk support I suppose and seeing if anyone else is in the same position?!

Thanks in advance! 💖

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We are on week 4 of nursery and he’s only just stopped crying when he goes in. His first week he wouldn’t nap, would just stare at me to make sure I was still there. He also wouldn’t get out of the pram to play. Would sit in it for 7 hours waiting for me to come and pick him up. Now he’s all good. Still cries when I pick him up but I’m fine with that. It will pass as he begins to settle. It is a massive change for such a small baby! Trust me. I cried when he didn’t cry for me on Monday morning 😂 As for the sleeping, I feel for you. That will get better with time also. My only advice, if it’s taking longer than twenty minutes, wait for the next wake window to end and try again. Sending strength 💕

I think it’s normal because they are a bit out of sorts with the shock of nursery etc mine has been a bit more wingey since starting nursery for sure. It will settle down but I know it’s hard right now x

Thankfully he absolutely loves nursery. He does cry when I drop him off but for all of 30 seconds 😅

It's just the fallout from him starting that I'm struggling with. I think he must be shattered, he usually naps for 1-1.5 hours twice a day so he's having a lot less than normal. And it is such a big change isn't it, for both of us! I miss spending every day with him so much. He is finally asleep now so hopefully I can get some sleep before he wakes up 🥱

I think it's the change with nursery but also there is a regression at 12 months, so some people have similar when their little ones haven't even started yet! So hang in there it'll pass.

My girl started about 2 months ago and she was only napping for 25mins a day😬 thankfully it didn't affect her night sleep or mood really and is only 2 days a week (at home she sleeps for 1 2.5hour nap a day which I wake her from!). But last two times she's been she's slept for 1hr20mins

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