Potty training: 3yo sometimes wetting her pants before she runs to the toilet.

My 3yo has been trained to use the big toilet since she was 2yo and she loves it. The problem is that recently from time to time (maybe once a day) she would pee a few drops in her pants and instantly run to the potty. Idk if it’s because she’s playing or getting distracted but she’s about to start Prek3 soon and I can’t have her pee her pants there. Also most of the time she waits till nap time for me to put a diaper on her to poop (she absolutely poops on the toilet too).
How can I stop her from wetting her pants. It’s not like she wants to it’s just being too busy and forgetting to go (she absolutely has ADHD).
Also when did you stop putting diapers for nap time and at night? Not sure when I should push for her to be fully potty trained even that I don’t think she’s ready yet.

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Yeah I ask her and she says she doesn’t have to go. 2 sec later there’s pee drops in her underwear as she wants to play. She literally forgets she needs to pee so there’s no cues, but she does go to the toilet regularly maybe once every hour or so.
Before her bedroom door was baby proofed so that she doesn’t wonder alone at night around the house but during naps I do leave it unlocked and have told her if she has to potty to just open the door and go to the toilet and I’ll be there to help if needed but she poops in her diaper during naps and then hides it won’t even call me just lay in it which is a problem.

Do her potty trips & reminders at transition points instead of while she's in the middle of play. Before she has lunch, before going out, when she changes clothes, before you get out the next toy set, start an episode.. there are usually enough in-between times during the day to catch her before an accident. Have her sit and "just try" before moving on to the next thing. Preschool will build these times into the day for her and there will be an expectation to try. She might pass it up and have a few accidents, but she'll get it and want to stay dry like the rest of the kids. A lot of kids hold poop until after school too. I don't think you have a lot to worry about here. It will get easier for her (both to sense the need to pee, and be able to stop in the middle of what she's doing) as she gets older. You can stop diapers at night when she is regularly waking up dry. If you're seeing sometimes wet sometimes dry (like 50/50) you can switch to a pull up so it's more comfortable & she can do it herself.

she’s been using pull-ups probably for a year now at night and during naps. When we go out she’s always perfectly dry no matter how long we’re gone and if she has to pee she tells us. Not sure what’s the problem at home.
Today we had a talk how if she has to pee she has to go to the bathroom… she repeated it 100 times which showed that she understands…. I took her to potty and put her to bed….1 minute later she was wet… ok changed her, took her to the potty just in case.. put her to bed again…..5 min later peed herself again.. like how?

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I've finally done it

I have finally done it. I have finally become the trope, the stereotype.

I have become bitter, resentful, and very overwhelmed and overloaded. I am very unhappy and hit burnout. And I snapped at my husband last night. I work full-time, and work has been very busy so im working late a lot. Im also in grad school. I also have a toddler that has become VERY clingy with me. My husband works shorter days but commutes, so he usually gets home after me by an hour or more. When he gets home, he usually heads to the restroom for at least 30 mins when he gets home. And now my toddler doesnt want anything to do with him. So im doing all the toddler duties until bed. I dont get 5 mins to myself. Not for almost 2 years. I finally hit my wall. I have also, somehow, become my MILs medical ride service and she somehow has an appt every week, it seems?! Shes not sick!! My husband was complaining that he needs to change routine to fit in a workout sometimes, and I lost it. I have been BEGGING for 5 mins to myself for months. I have been telling him how im not good, im going to burn out for months. And between his attitude and him complaining (which really got me b/c he blames me for not being able to work out?! Saying I need help when he gets home so he just cant workout now) I just lost it completely. I told him how unfair my life has become and I have the entire mental and emotional load and it is just not fair. He got mad at me and said "hes trying" when hes literally not trying at all. What do I do?? No one is taking the load from me! And im done and dont know what to do now.
I do not like this version of me.

AITA?

This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.

Is this clever or cruel?

My husband and i were talking and with social media and the internet in general being a terrifying dumpster fire, we are trying to figure out the best way to keep our son safe while still teaching him how to safely be online and moderation.

We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

If your partners parent passes away

And you and that parent didn't get along are you still go to the funeral?

Not my situation!

Big vent!

Hi mums.
I'm a first time mum in my 40s to twin boys.They are almost 5 months old and the biggest miracle in my life!
I am struggling!!!
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My husband is not helping much because he's always too busy with work.He will "look" after them usually between 8pm-12am so I can have a chance to sleep.
He expects me to just sleep when I touch the pillow,even though I hear tje babies crying and him don't really bother because most of the times he'll be on his laptop working.
When I tell him I can't relax to fall asleep because I feel you r neglecting the babies,he says I'm the problem becauae I'm always there with them and don't give them alone time!!
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I can't keep.up.with housework becauae someone alwaya neess me and most of the times they nap I either cook and clean tje kitchen,do laundry or try and take a quick nap.
He doesn't help.around the house,becauae..guess what?always super busy.
I asked him nicely we could clean the house together every Saturday morning so it's easier and quicker for both of us and he said no,because he has a lot of work but probably wants to sleep until 12 or 2.
2 days ago a button of his coat ripped and I told him I'll sew it these days.
Earlier this morning while running late for his work,as always,he weara the coat and told him didn't get the chance to fix the button and sarcastically said..of.course u didn't!!!
I spent all night awake because one of the babies had congested nose and we've been trying to reduce one fees at night.
I wanted to punch him!!He left and I started crying...I cry so much,even at 5 months pp...
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