Resettling during night sleep

Sounds like you are doing exactly what I do - there’s definitely a moan vs a proper cry that I recognise in my girl and I’m getting better at judging when she’s able to sort herself without my help. I don’t think she’d ever moan continuously for 20 mins while re-settling (without escalating!) …maybe on and off with some squirming and leg banging before I know she’s gone back into a deep sleep. The false starts are usually a sign that bedtime or sleep pressure isn’t quite right so maybe play around with last nap timings to see if that helps? We get false starts when mine’s overtired.

Sounds like you are already nailing it to me tbh! Trust your Mum instincts - you know your little one best ☺️

thank you, I do feel like bedtime is like a code for me to crack 🤣 we had 3 false starts last night after I put her to bed early BUT quite late after her last nap (been trying to phase out the last nap of the day because it’s SO HARD to get), so I think I hit overtired. Got her up with us for 20 minutes after the third wake up and then she went down properly for the night.

I try not to put her to bed before 6pm (7pm ideally) but she’s on crap naps at the moment and ends up waking up from her last nap so early 🙃

Yes I also now can tell the difference between a grizzle/moan and a full cry of which I would always attend to. Every time I leave the room for a nap she shouts for about 10 seconds and then finds her hands and happily falls asleep. I give like 15 mins to resettle during naps particularly if she’s not unhappy. I’m a bit more careful with night sleep as we also have a toddler that I don’t want to wake!

I’m so glad I found this post. We’re having these false starts and I’m so unsure what to do. I give her time to try and resettle but also have a toddler who’s trying to sleep at that time too.
She goes down so easily by herself. Has a little shout at first and I leave the room and can hear her babbling then she falls asleep but always wakes up 30mins-1hour after scream crying and can’t resettle.
Any advice would be great. X

Fairly sure it will just be a phase - my lg did it for about 2 weeks when she was first learning to self settle - we now haven’t had a false start in around a month 🤞🏻- think they just need to become more confident with it. Also trying to make sure their level of tiredness at bed time is perfect so not under or over tired as that can cause false starts

I’m worried that if I give her the breast for comfort it’s going to confuse her. But then patting/ shhh’ing/ cuddling is not cutting it 😅😂

On my first sleep cycle wake now…it’s so weird that I can literally guarantee she’ll wake up after 45ish minutes of putting her to bed. Fine for the rest of the night, but the first sleep cycle she needs help to get through. What is this about?!

Guess it’s not so bad if I know it’s coming every night 🙃

this is exactly what was happening to us but one day it just stopped once she became more confident with settling at the beginning :)

great, glad to hear it! I don’t really mind it at the moment, because she goes to bed early so it doesn’t really disturb my night, and she goes back down easily..,it’s just weird 🙃 she didn’t even so much as stir for the next sleep cycle