Narcissist BD at it again .
Am I wrong here ? My BD and I have terrible communication . He started our son on solids without discussing a plan for how we would start him what he would eat etc . So now fast forward 3 weeks later , I researched a powder you can add to a baby bottle to introduce them to allergens. I told him about it , and told him he could do his research, the powder has to be taken for 30 days so I wanted to coordinate how we could share the packets when it’s his parenting time . He responds “ I’m fully aware how this works , I’ve used this before and I have an unopened box with my other child , I don’t need you to send me anything “ so I asked a simple question , his other child is obvious older so is it expired ? I asked him to confirm and that I was going to start our son on day 1 and 2 and for him to let me know if he still would like me to give him the next days when he comes to pick my son up .
He starts saying I made a unilateral decision without him and that I don’t want to co parent .
Here’s the other thing : I’ve known him a while so when he says he had an unopened box I remembered I actually was the one who introduced him to this product . I found old text messages between he and I where I told him about this same product and he at that time obviously valued my input and cared to buy it for his other child when they were younger . So now all of a sudden I’m trying to not co parent ? What do you guys think
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Some men only wanna hear themselves talk so I would just simply reply back & say “I’m communicating with you in a form of a plan as a coparent about my child so by me asking you about the expiration or if you need something that’s me as a parent making sure my child is good whether my child is here or over there so nobody’s trying to tell you what to do. I’m thinking about my child and maybe you should too before you make any decisions pertaining to their life without me “ ex starting solids 3wks earlier, now you have a great day”
And tbh he’s lucky you asked him to send stuff over there because most moms don’t they send just a body of the kid and the father has to figure everything else out (car seats formula diapers, wipes, clothes) etc so don’t let him get to you & overlook him.
Right , I think he just always has an issue that it doesn’t matter what I do he will always be disagreeable
You’re going to exhaust yourself worrying about every little decision. I coparent with more than one person and like even if it’s not how you would do it doesn’t make it wrong. I personally would not care about this small decision.
Thank you I didn’t think it was that big of a deal . And I actually was trying to coordinate with him . He’s exhausting himself trying to find something or be upset about
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