potty training

how did you all start off potty training? my toddler is about to be 23 months & tells me when he poops. he also follows me and dad into the bathroom when we go so he can flush the toilet lol. i want to get him started on potty training since he’ll be 2 next month and he knows when he pees/poops, but not really sure where to start. any suggestions/tips are much appreciated!!

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I’ve read a few different articles and watch a few videos and this is what we came to- we are introducing the potty as an option. I feel like when parents are stressed the kids pick up on it and makes things way worse.

So we are buying a potty seat and moving it room to room with him. One video said to put it on a puppy pee pad to protect your floors. We are going to put him on it when he wakes up from sleeping and after eating. Those are the most likely times in the beginning he will use it and reinforce the action we want without forcing him to sit on one every 15 min and having tears. But the potty will be in the room during play if chooses.

Diapers and pull-ups are made to keep them dry. So one article said to put on underwear then the diaper. This will help them actually feel wet and start understanding what the sensation is to pee or poop.

So if he uses the potty, great! If he goes in the diaper, no big deal!

I bought it, Sat him on when I got in. He eventually used the bathroom on his own without me even knowing

We did pants outside as it was nice weather, sat on potty every 15 mins , If he starts weeing then you have to keep him on there until he finishes as babies drip wee and don't really finish a wee. Then you can leave it half an hour and work up in incriminates
After 3/4ish days he could go an hour (prob more) but we sat him every hour on the potty and he v rarely had an accident.
We had a sticker reward chart, prizes and made it as fun as possible.
The most important part was that he wanted to wear big boy pants and was v receptive to the process

thank you ladies!! ☺️ i’m going to try these

each time he sat on the potty, i gave encouragement & praises. each time he actually used the potty, he got a sticker. once he completed the entire chart he got 1 chocolate.
first day i had no hope.. i was thinking “maybe he just isnt ready”? even though he was clearly showing us signs (prior) that he was. but by the second day he proved me wrong. he pulled his underwear down to let me know he needed to go. then by the 3rd day he was verbally telling me he needed to go. we still have a few little moments with accidents because he would rather play than tell me he needs a potty break.. but its only been a week so im not too worried. overall it has been a smooth process. just make sure you give yourself a full 3 day weekend maybe a whole week to make sure you can keep an eye out for his cues. give yourself some grace, give him some grace. its his first time and your first time as well. good luck mama! you both got this!! 🫶🏻

I started when I noticed him stay dry more. We got a little potty and little seats for the big potty. We started getting him comfortable having him sit when he woke up after naps and after bed. And then after a few times of actually going and being comfortable the potty we decided to do 3-4 days of like no underwear letting him run around naked. It probably took a week or two for him to like really get it but we potty trained him in February and he just turned two in May. We really liked the book oh s*** potty training

I just let my eldest run around without a pull up on then everytime he was about to go I'd quickly scoop him up and place him on the toilet

If you dont mind having to mop up pee through the day lol but he knows where to go now 😅

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Am I overreacting???

So I have a younger sister (23yr old ) she has 3 kids , 5,2 & 1 yr old .
She is constantly asking for me to baby sit for free .Which at first i didn’t mind wtv but now it’s constant & I’m tired of it .I have my own kid to take care of and tbh I don’t like taking care of my nephews … I love them to death but I just can’t with 4 kids by my self …. She asked if I can babysit again tomorrow for 4 hours I said “sure for a small golden eagle coffee frm Dutch bros “and she got upset … girl I’m done

Going no contact with in laws, undecided.

Hey. So this is a bit of a long winded situation forgive me if you have to read on forever. Advice is really appreciated. I don't want to feel like I'm weaponising my child or using her as leverage in any way so I really need some honest advice as my concerns are genuine.

Since announcing our pregnancy , my sister in law and her 19 year old daughter have gone from being super close with us, to ignoring us completely. I mean ignoring scans, not asking how we are, ignoring our attempts to make plans for other family members birthdays, nothing. Unfortunately my partner's dad has been undergoing intensive cancer treatment so it has been a super delicate and emotional time for everyone, but everyone else in the family including father in law has been really excited for us and made space for this good thing amongst the bad which I'm so grateful for as I didn't expect it at all. We've tried not to make it seem like the most important thing going on right now and been there for support, meal prepped his parents some food for those days they've spent at hospital and can't make dinner, we've not done gender reveal parties or baby showers as a result of this big fall out / perhaps it not being the right time either.

So the sister in law has a history of making things about her, and upsetting people with her behaviour. It's not the first time, she did it over her brother's wedding because things didn't go her way. So I was semi prepared for a bit of resentment / inability to be happy for us. But I was still really quite hurt when it materialised. My first trimester was spent really upset not understanding what I did wrong to them to deserve them not welcoming my baby. We put our foot down after a few months of being ignored and decided to call out the behaviour, and we just got a complete attack in return. Apparently we are responsible for the fact she doesn't have a partner for support through her dad's cancer diagnosis, apparently we don't show up for the parents as much as she does (she works from home and lives round the corner, we are one hour away) apparently her daughter prefers how my partner was with her before I came along. Lots of things that just show resentment came up and we've had no apology for it, some of it felt like it came completely out of the blue. Apparently they were ignoring us because before Christmas we didn't like a photo of her daughter Infront of a Christmas tree. (We were going through some really sad stuff at the time). We have explained this, and said it's not really on the same scale as ignoring the existence of an entire new baby for months. It just felt like she was clutching at straws and throwing lots of punches rather than telling the truth as to why they decided to become upset with us after we became pregnant.

I've kept quiet, I've been in hospital twice with heart palpitations which turned out to be panic attacks. Had to go on anti depressants which made me really unwell for MONTHS, not keeping food or water in. Like I've not been okay at all and have communicated on two occasions that I need this to stop for the sake of baby whatever the issue is, theres more important things happening. Completely ignored. It's made things tricky in a sense of the family getting together too. My other sister in law (married to partners brother) is disgusted at how she's behaved and doesn't want much to do with her because she's been on the receiving end also.

I've had to scroll my feed and see bitchy videos from my niece about how 'talking to her is a privilege not an option ' with sister in law commenting things like 'damn right' after we were the ones ignored for months. The whole situation is just silly. But it's upset me a lot.

I've loved these girls like my own family for the past four years, but the way they've made me break down and put my baby at risk I really don't feel like I can move past. They obviously have a lot of resentment for me and I just feel like I can't then trust them around my baby, I feel like they don't deserve to get to hold my child or even look at her and I can't get past that feeling. My partner is in full support as he's seen how upset it has made me, he's been as worried as me at times for babys health amongst this.

I don't want any contact, have had them blocked for months anyway but I have a feeling they may try to show up when baby's here. What would you do?

There are a lot of details and things done and said left out but it's the jist of it. I've not spoken to them, I tried to reach out yet another time for this to stop and they ignored me and continued to ignore us revealing the gender too, but went straight on to wishing people a happy birthday in the same family chat the following day.

Is there any way to make space for your child to have a relationship when they've disrespected the mum and disregarded her feelings, health etc during pregnancy?

I've gotten to a stage I've dealt with it and have kind of decided what I think of them after all this, but having to make that decision on behalf of your child is something I've not experienced before.

Anyone else's husband?

I'm 8 days pp with our 4th baby, the others are all under the age of 4. Literally still in diapers, and my husband has the audacity to ask me to suck his dick today. Twice. He mentioned earlier this morning how horny he's been for days and my response was I'm sorry I still got like 5 weeks to go and he made some stupid comment about me having hands and a mouth still. I know he was joking he's not that much of an asshole lol but the last thing I want to do right now is be sexual. I feel like a milking cow and I'm wearing diapers like. Anyone else's husband? He's very open about the fact that he's been like taking care of it himself if you get me but that's been a thing in our relationship and im fine with it, it's just like asking me only a week after having an unmedicated vbac now back at home taking care of 4 kids and as im getting ready to finally go to sleep youre gonna ask me for that?

I don’t know what to do..

There’s this long distance happening. We are in the same room, but miles apart. He works from 10-9 five days a week. And the days he’s off I’m working. But he is a good husband, father, and provider. Is it wrong for me to be feeling so alone. (And yes we’ve talked about it but never come to a same conclusion) or am I being selfish, or is it time to start asking the harder questions..

Is this weird or am I being dramatic?

I’m living with my mum atm as me and my bd split up before I had my baby. I’ve been feeding my friends cat for about a week as she’s on holiday and mum got in from work (night shifts) and said she’d watch the baby so I don’t need to take him with me. I’ve just got back in and he’s in bed cuddled up with her asleep. No problem there but she’d got undressed to go to bed so he’s cuddled against her bare breast? And it’s just made me feel a tad uncomfortable. Is it just me or would anyone else feel a certain way about this??

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