I feel weird about husbands comments on clothes

So time to time when we go out, he says things like “that woman’s dress would look good on you” or “you can style yourself just like that” I feel like I have my own idea of what looks good, he doesn’t like what I wear most of the time, and he sees other beautiful women with things he likes, then he makes these comments. Today I snapped and said I don’t like you pointing out other women with the clothes you like ON THEM, and I said they probably won’t fit me the way it fits them, he probably would be disappointed as I’m not shaped like those fit women he points out. I just wish he liked my style, I really don’t want to change my style but I feel like he’ll lose attraction to me. Makes me feel upset or am I just being overly sensitive, I’m 4 months pp so I might be too emotional.

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Before you snapped had you mentioned to him that you don't like these sorts of comments and how they make you feel?

Regardless, I'd say he knows now 😅 so hopefully he'll stop. If not then I'd start getting really upset. If I were super hormonal and sleep deprived I'd also probably start getting petty and do it back to him to show how it feels. Not advising it!

My husband has been fucked up many a time but he has NEVER commented on my weight, my body, or my clothing style ever. He has commented that I got “dressed up” to go out with friends better than I do him but he never puts in effort to his appearance so I never did either lol

Now that I have a child, I find myself trying though only because I don’t want to embarrass them 🤷🏼‍♀️

that’s messed up period. Sounds like he’s lustful.
I’m sorry you’re going thru this i’d talk w him about it you’re sooo fresh post partum, u just created and birthed a human. he sounds like a a-hole

He doesn’t ever compare me to other girls like that. But when I’m scrolling Shein myself looking for a new dress myself for girls night or date night I’ll get his opinion, I’ll scroll next to him and ask “how about that one? Or Would that look good on me you rekon? Or does that look too short on her? It wouldn’t look that short on me because I’m shorter than her it’ll come down lower on me” so I’m initiating the convo if I’m ever talking about dresses for me he’s never ever come out and said that unprompted. Maybe, instead of hearing him compare and point out other girls, scroll a website and ask him for his opinion? My man gets a big head when I’m wearing a dress on date night that’s he’s picked out (after I’ve asked him that is) he brags to whoeve we’re with “I picked that for her” like no I showed you and you agreed 🤦🏻‍♀️😂 Try that??

Kind of a different take, but maybe get one of those dresses hubs has mentioned. See how it looks. Sometimes, it's good to switch it up. And if I've learned anything from those makeover shows, sometimes you have to try something on to see if you really like it...

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