Baby gates

Any recommendations? Dos/donts/links please?

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We got self closing ones and I regret it we can't leave them open without propping something in the way otherwise they bang shut and wake him up especially when we have people stay who aren't used to them

We have 2 different gates. The more traditional style of gate: https://amzn.eu/d/8bZdYqH

We also have a retractable 1 at the top of the stairs. It's a tad noisy when retracting but saves tripping on the bar: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0BVZ8CHS6?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

I both love and hate both. My mum is looking at getting the retractable 1 for hers as my little girl loves the stairs. I will say that for the stairs double check your measurements. My mum brought us the traditional style and its pushing it a bit at side push pieces (they're almost fully extended and the extended is at an angle so doesn't fit)

We tried a few but ended up with the BabyDan perfect close. It's the only one that feels solid and secure. It's easy to open and closes with just a push, but it stays open when you leave it open too. We did have a low step one for the top of the stairs but it was fiddly to close and didn't feel very secure. This is the one we now have at the top and bottom...

https://amzn.eu/d/2BrS1lX

good tip thank you! Exactly why I posted before buying! I have a dog so self closing wouldn’t work

We use baby dan ones. They have no bars to trip on. Its not recommended to put retractable ones at the top of stairs but at the bottom or in a doorway is fine x

We got these ones, and love them

https://amzn.eu/d/64C7DAu

good safety point!

I love these! Much easier on the eye! But have a dog so need more of a gate style so she can come and go x

We have a babydan guard me auto foldable at top and bottom. No bar at bottom to trip but needs to be screwed in. I saw a video saying don’t get a pressure mounted gate at the top of the stairs because it could be dangerous if it gets pushed against. Okay for other areas though

in our community

If yall still giving your kids processed food, pls seek help

I understand not everybody can afford healthy ingredients all the time, but I’m seeing so many moms on social media giving they kids artificial cereals, coffee, frozen pancakes, velveetta Mac and cheese, hot Cheetos, kraft, the list goes on. I’m sorry but are yall not capable of cooking from scratch or ?? On top of that, if you still using canola and vegetable oil in 2026 you gotta stop. Am I the only one that notices this ???

Sahm .. the dad role .

Hi!! I’m 2 months pp. and I really would like your opinion on this situation if you have a moment.
So I have always had a job before the baby, and my bd .. not really. But 2 weeks before he was born he scored a really good job and I was able to be a sahm. Which is what I wanted , and I’m unsure if it’s still what I want or if the situation just isn’t right.
At first he was a great help in the hospital as I had an emergency c section. I was in the hospital for about a week and for most of that time I was in bed .
But after that.. I’m lucky if he will watch the baby while I shower .and I mean that seriously.
I am the only one who changes diapers, only one who bathes , feeds or watched him in general. And of course he may be tired after work but it’s like he completely avoids any responsibility. Like he will take a hour coming home and stop by his friends house otw . He will sit down stairs for hours knowing I won’t go down there bc I’m uncomfy . So I have the baby then.
We have been out maybe 2-3 times sense I had him & he refused to push the stroller c change or anything. In fact we got to the mall and said he needed to split up and I had the baby.
I feel he only wants the baby when it’s for … attention? Like to post the baby on social media or if his family is here he will take him .

I just feel like on days he doesn’t have work the next morning he should be helping , and if he is up early before work while I’m still sleeping he should get the baby instead of scrolling on reels for 3 hours .

Honestly he has really ruined my new born phase with my son. Within the first week of us being home I had to full on switch to survival mode I would call it. He would complain if dinner wasn’t done or if the room was a mess , he would complain if the diaper caddy had no diapers which really makes no sense bc he didn’t even changed the diapers . It was just everything.
I’m just wondering if there is anything I could say to get some type of help out of him.
I tried reaching out to his mother but honestly his hole family is oblivious to his behaviour.

Nursery ideas

Guys I need help! This is going to be my daughter’s nursery and I want to make it cute. Help me find an aesthetic look or a good layout to place some furniture/cribs etc!!

Should I respect his wishes??

I’ve been a SAHM for 4 years now and my husband does a great job providing for our family and we never need for anything. With that i still had to sacrifice some wants like shopping when I want getting my hair and nails done regularly so when I can I try to supplement for my wants and savings by selling my craft items at vendor markets and recently I’ve started donating plasma. Which has been consistent income for me. $125 twice a week. Well my husband has expressed that he doesn’t like me donating plasma. He feels like it’s not worth it to put my body through those conditions for $125. He even went out to sell one of his guns today and gave me all the money and told me “I shouldn’t have to donate plasma no more”. That was so sweet but I disagree. I planned on continuing to donate plasma to save for my kids birthdays thats coming up, a trip we have planned and our anniversary. I don’t know what to do. I finally found something that pays something consistently and my husband is against it. What should I do?

Blw

Hi I am running out off ideas on what to make for Lil 14 month old for breakfast lunch and dinner if anyone have any resipes would be great to try my boy with them

AITA?

This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.