Vibrator

Do you think it’s bad to own and use a vibrator when your partner is in the house with you?
For example, I own one, and at times I use my vibrator even when he’s home because it gets the job done that my partner can’t. However, at times when he hears it, he gives me shit for it or tries to “hide it”.

Is it really that bad, like a girl just wants some pleasure, bc clearly you can’t.

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I mean if it hurts him I wouldn’t, but encourage it during time with him.

if my partner finishes first he’ll always get my toys out to play with. think it’s something to be open with your partner about

My partner bought me one so I say it’s just up to your partner being comfortable with it

Hes being imature. Vibrators are fine, whats next? Is he gonna tell you that you cant use your hand either? If he is self conscious about his ability to please you, then he needs to learn to grapple with that. Like what, is he the only one entitled to an orgasm?

My husband & I use my toys together, he wouldn’t ever be mad at me for using one but if it ever made him uncomfortable I wouldn’t do it with him in the house, I think it’s something you should have an open conversation about

It absolutely isn’t bad to own and use one!! Seems he might be a little insecure.
Maybe sit and have a conversation about it with him and see exactly why he don’t like it?

my husband bought me three of them n these gloves that have different feeling for each finger

😮‍💨 that sounds like a fun time

My thing always was if we aren't having sex, they do not want it then I'm free game to do what I want. If you never wanted sex with them then used toys all the time that would be different.

yes

wow! That sounds very exciting!

I am an affiliate for a ‘sex’ company, so hubby & I get to test all the goodies out lol

Girl I make my partner grab my vibrator for me if they can't finish me off 😭😂
We make it sexy tho
They dirty talk me while I finish myself

if you’re regularly choosing that over sex with him then yeah it could be an issue. but sometimes you just wanna do it yourself and there’s nothing wrong with that, i do it too.

do you use it together? does he not put any effort into pleasing you? if not then it’s understandable but he should want you to feel good and if a vibrator is necessary so be it

Have you asked him to watch you? I enjoy when my husband watches me with mine 🤭

Girl I pull mine out mid sex lol esp if I’m taking too long to orgasm he has no probs w that because he says it gets me there faster and he wants me there otherwise ima jump him again next day looking for an orgasm lol. He always wants me to finish and if the vibrator can help then the vibrator can join 😂 he sounds insecure? But I don’t insert mine I just hold it against my clit I only use it for the vibration

If it’s an issue I’d say your sex life with your man has problems. If your sex life is good I don’t see why it would bother him

I have one too, but i would never use it while he is home. I prefer my man over any toys. 🤩

But having toys isn't bad, just the right time, I guess 😋
But he has to definitely help u

Would not know my man is old school and aint believe in toys, but if I didnt finish he always let's me go until I finish

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