Kissing babies

I keep seeing posts about people not wanting family to kiss their babies.

Is there anyone who doesn't mind their families kissing their babies!? I just can't see myself asking them not to, and it's a nice part of bonding for grandparents, aunts, uncles etc, no?!?
Is it really that bad? I'm sure it wasn't a thing when I was a baby..

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I just say they can’t kiss her on the lips on the head and cheek but not the lips

She is also 10 months now though and I’ve stuck by this since she was born

I was kissed as a baby and was given the cold sore virus. The family member that passed it did not have an active cold sore at the time. The virus went into my eyes and caused scar tissue which has impacted my sight my entire life and requires medication and eye drops. As a baby this caused viral meningitis and nearly killed me and I was in special care baby unit for 6 weeks.

I don't mean to sound harsh but the impact can be very life changing

Just to add I have to go to the eye infirmary every 6 months for check ups with the consultant

I don't mind and have never minded my family kissing my son. He loves giving kisses and cuddles, he's 2 now.

Everyone is different. If they have a cold or something I ask them to distance themselves a little but my little boy likes cuddles so he catches stuff like all kids.

I don’t even kiss my baby on the lips , top of her head only! They don’t have the immune system that we do, they cannot handle the germs…. I do not recommend allowing people to kiss your baby, wise to remember if your coming down with something 24 hours before your contagious but might not show symptoms till the next day, I.e if you have a cold sore in your system 24 hours before you have no symptoms but can spread the virus, same with bugs such as sickness and diarrhoea x

I allowed head and cheek kisses - I never even kissed my baby on the lips, always felt a bit much just with adult mouths being so big 😂

My friends cousins baby died after someone kissed the baby, because their immune system just isn't strong enough when they're babies

When you explain to family it can be that serious then they understand - or at least thats been my experience so far with my 2.5 week old x

I've asked and asked and family members still try 😔

I let my mum and mil kiss babies on the cheek and forehead. They’re very hygienic and have both had babies so they understand how things work and wouldn’t even come and visit if they had the slightest hint of a cold. No one else is allowed with the obvious exception of me & hubby xx

I feel like I'm a bit in the middle, Family cheeks and forehead and not on the lips, if anyone is ill not to come, and if anyone has a coldsore not to kiss at all

It’s not worth it. A kiss can kill

I know everyone shows affection differently, but I’m personally not too comfortable with adults kissing my baby on the face or lips — it just feels a bit unnecessary to me. You wouldn’t go up to an adult and kiss them on the lips right ? So, why a babie ☺️..

My family kisses my baby on the head and cheeks etc but I would expect someone who knows they have some sort of virus to absolutely not do that

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