Would you ever leave the house with the oven on?

I have to pick my toddler up from nursery around 5pm. Husband gets home from work around 6:50/7 which is when we all eat dinner together. I have an easy tray bake to just stick in the oven which takes about an hour. My dilemma: it would be really nice to take both kids and the dog down to the little playground down the street since it’s nice weather and light out. But I’ve never thought about having the oven on and leaving the house. Would it be stupid? If so why?

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I'm sure plenty of people do and are fine. But honestly, I personally wouldn't, my anxiety could never 😂

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I’ve thought about doing this, since my daughters school and the park that we go to after is literally 2 minutes walk up the road. But I’ve never dared and I don’t really know why because the thousands of times I’ve used an oven whilst in the house, nothing bad has ever happened, and I happily leave my slow cooker going whilst I’m out at work!

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I have done this with a roast in the Dutch oven or a whole chicken but never a sheet pan dish.

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I could never! If you come back to a burning house are you okay with that consequence? That’s how I’d think about it. Personally you can’t get upset if your house burns down, which is worse case scenario in leaving the oven on, and I wouldn’t be okay with burning down our home so I wouldn’t leave. Honestly I don’t even like to leave the dryer on if I’m not here.

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I've found my people 😂

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For anyone saying no bc the house could burn down, do you currently have a fire extinguisher in your home?

We do, I’m just curious if the outcome would be any different for people should something happen if you’re home vs not

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My mum used to do this on Sundays when we went to church and she’d be cooking a roast, I’m too anxious for that though 😂

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Yup, we have a fire extinguisher and blanket, plus working fire alarms

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I get nervous leaving the crock pot on, i could never leave the oven on 😭

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I wouldn’t even bat an eyelid about leaving the oven on for something that’s roasting…. On a lower temp. What’s the worry? If the oven blows, I’d rather not be in the house lol. And if dinner burns… oh well we will have a takeaway 😂

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you can’t get upset if your house burns down?? 😂😂 I’m pretty sure you can regardless of the cause lol

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No Atleast you wouldn’t be in the house in the unusual situation that your oven somehow burns the house down lol

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I might but I’d set the alarm on my phone incase I forget about the oven

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I’ve done this, my oven has a timer on and it stops by itself therefore I’m not scared to leave it on

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I couldn't, ever. I overthink everything, coming up with every possible outcome, take the worst realistic outcome and end up with the question of, is a trip to the park worth losing your house? Your answer to that should dictate your decision

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I’ve left the crock pot going which even that gives me anxiety when I grew up with family doing it like it’s just laundry going while we’re gone lol

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I can’t do it as an adult myself tho risk is greater than the reward and if you can make the food while you’re home why not

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Yes that’s how I slow cook, leave the oven on low and have my Dutch oven in there slow cooking for 3-4hrs. Thing is, my oven turns off when the timer goes off so if it has 3hrs left it’ll turn off in 3hrs it doesn’t stay on after the timer goes off. My oven is my “slow cooker” I don’t have an electric slow cooker. Edit; I don’t really have anxiety. The timer gives me peace of mind. I will NOT leave anything on the stove even on low and leave the house I cannot control that if I were to be late, at least the oven will turn off at the timer.

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I would with a slow cooker / crock pot but not the proper oven.

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Girl listen. Don’t worry about these people talking about the house burning down. If that were to happen I’d be rejoicing that I wasn’t in it! The reason I wouldn’t is because you never know what may happen while you’re out that causes a 5 min run to turn into a 30 min or longer event. You could get into an accident etc a lot of things can unexpectedly happen. So I wouldn’t want to add to the danger by leaving an appliance on that nobody knows is burning or have time to attend to in case I meet an emergency outside. FYI I did run to pick up my daughter once with my electric oven on which had a timer and was back in less than 10 and before the timer went off. FYI Crock pots/slow cookers, electric or gas ovens all can start fires. Still wouldn’t recommend; it’s a personal risk and I get it so

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Electric oven yes, gas oven no

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I leave the crock pot on, not oven.

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I’m curious why so many feel a crockpot or slow cooker is safer left than an oven? Both Electric obviously

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I do pop dinner into the slow cooker on low heat and go to work so its ready by the time I get home. Never left the house with the oven on though

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I guess in my head, if I’m delayed and end up being out for hours, nothing bad will happen with the slow cooker but if I’m cooking in the oven it would eventually set fire? Might be bad logic.

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funny because something plugged in like that (even though I know an oven is plugged in..) freaks me out more than an oven for some reason. I can’t even really use logic to explain why 😂

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I have but it was just a walk to the mailbox (10 min walk in apartments) while seasoning my cast iron

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Lower temperature!, I left soup on very low temp to cook when I did pick up, I was like only 5mins anyway it was okay. Sometimes you can get these casserole electric pots that are specific for slow cook when your out and about

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I don't even like leaving the house with the slow cooker on so I couldn't leave with the oven on. I'd probably just cook it earlier and then reheat when all ready to heat.

My mum used to leave the turkey in the oven on Xmas day whilst we went to the pub for a drink

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I’ve never done it in but my dad did and for some reason the fire alarm went off (which it never does) and because it was left for a while the neighbours called the fire brigade and they had to pay a false call out fee

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Well I've used my oven for hours at a time baking and cooking Christmas dinners. My mother in law is so daring as to use it whilst she sleeps. I've left it on to preheat whilst popping to the corner shop for that forgotten ingredient. I should think it be fine.

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I did this once just to take the bins out and my anxiety was ridiculous despite being less than 5 minutes

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My oven has a timer you can set the start and end time so it won’t overcook or burn if you get delayed. Maybe check if your oven has this function

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With my wifi oven and Google home connections properly working and it being set to turn off after complete.

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