Husband left 5 month old in the car to run into a shop

I left my 5 month old baby with my husband for one hour and he took him to pick up a food order. He fell asleep in the car so my husband ran in to collect the order. He told me he was literally 2 minutes but I do not agree with this. He said its not summer and he was in no danger. My thought is someone could steal the car. Pop the window and take my baby or he wakes and puts something in his mouth and chokes when he is unattended. I get the likelihood of these things happening are slim but am I unreasonable here?

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You are not unreasonable at all . It’s literally ILLEGAL to leave your child unattended in a vehicle . He should have taken the baby with him , idc if it was 2 seconds or 2 minutes .

Never ever again. Way too risky, when it’s so easy to just carry baby in!

Ya u r not being unreasonable at all. I would have throw a huge fit and went tf off on him. That’s crazy he did that. Some men do not have common sense at all. My husband wanted to leave our daughter home asleep in her crib so we could take a walk 🙄 I told him absolutely not idc if she has a camera on her or not. I would never ever leave her unattended.

I’ve been in the car while my baby started choking in his sleep just from his own saliva and had I not have been there to get him out as quickly as I did then I couldn’t even imagine what would’ve happened. I was right there next to him and got him out instantly and it still wasn’t fast enough.

DO NOT LEAVE YOUR GOD DAMN BABY IN THE CAR.. some fucking people!!!

😭😭 sorry this is so extreme it’s honestly just so scary

I don't even leave my son in the car when I go to pay for petrol, not when he was a baby, not now.
Yes the chances of something happening are slim, but what if it did happen? You'd never forgive yourself for not taking simple preventative action.

But also WHAT IF SOMETHING HAPPENED TO YOUR HUSBAND?? No one would know your baby is in the car. How long would your baby be in the car alone for? It’s not just about something happening to the baby.

that’s such a good point

I agree with all the above, that was super risky! Nobody plans for accidents to happen. You never know who/what is around the corner. Maybe if he left his phone in the car for a few minutes but not his baby!! That’s the one thing you can never replace, why risk it? It’s not about the chances being slim or how long it was, it was a mindless act.

I don’t think you should be too hard on him. He probably really felt it was ok if he could see the car and ran in just for a second

I don’t think there’s any valid reasons to give to leave a 5 month old and or a child in the car by themselves. There are too many stories of kids being overheated and passing away. Anything could’ve happened within that hour, he should’ve the baby out of the car with him… even if it would’nt took long.

I would be livid! aim going to give my husband a hard time just for even trying to justify this. it's unacceptable to leave a baby unattended no matter how quick it is.

Yeah not unreasonable at all, I get upset with my husband when he puts our daughter in the car and comes back in for a second to grab something before we leave. He says it’s fine but unattended babies are not okay! And also it is summer and there is always a possibility of danger with doing that, you never know what could happen. It’s risky, scary, and unnecessary! Just take the baby with you, I’d rather carry a sleeping baby in a car seat and risk waking them up then going back to my car after only 2 minutes of being away to find out something had happened. Not worth the risk! Just talk to him and explain all the risks involved with leaving the baby in the car alone, I’m sure he’ll understand.

As well as possible kidnapping, other health problems could occur without your knowledge. I just think maybe he needs to hear perspective from another person like an outsider… maybe a therapist if this becomes a repeated issue.

Oh no!!

You’re not being unreasonable, the temperature of the inside of a car can increase rapidly by 10 degrees or more within minutes when not in use and with the windows up babies are at risk of suffocation as well according to my gp.

I’ve worked in child services for a long time and have heard horror stories including fatalities of babies being left in the car for under half an hour.

I know your partner thinks you’re overreacting because a few minutes isn’t the same thing as half an hour or longer but babies can’t control their body temperature and even if it’s not hot outside, the car is still a huge risk. Plus it allows him to fall into the habit of doing it.

A few minutes being ok now sets the precedent that it’s ‘not that big of a deal’ or risk, and by the time it is summer why would he think to change his behaviour and start taking the baby in with him for small trips?

A few minutes can easily turn into longer, he needs to understand it’s a no go no matter what. + illegal!

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Hi!! I’m 2 months pp. and I really would like your opinion on this situation if you have a moment.
So I have always had a job before the baby, and my bd .. not really. But 2 weeks before he was born he scored a really good job and I was able to be a sahm. Which is what I wanted , and I’m unsure if it’s still what I want or if the situation just isn’t right.
At first he was a great help in the hospital as I had an emergency c section. I was in the hospital for about a week and for most of that time I was in bed .
But after that.. I’m lucky if he will watch the baby while I shower .and I mean that seriously.
I am the only one who changes diapers, only one who bathes , feeds or watched him in general. And of course he may be tired after work but it’s like he completely avoids any responsibility. Like he will take a hour coming home and stop by his friends house otw . He will sit down stairs for hours knowing I won’t go down there bc I’m uncomfy . So I have the baby then.
We have been out maybe 2-3 times sense I had him & he refused to push the stroller c change or anything. In fact we got to the mall and said he needed to split up and I had the baby.
I feel he only wants the baby when it’s for … attention? Like to post the baby on social media or if his family is here he will take him .

I just feel like on days he doesn’t have work the next morning he should be helping , and if he is up early before work while I’m still sleeping he should get the baby instead of scrolling on reels for 3 hours .

Honestly he has really ruined my new born phase with my son. Within the first week of us being home I had to full on switch to survival mode I would call it. He would complain if dinner wasn’t done or if the room was a mess , he would complain if the diaper caddy had no diapers which really makes no sense bc he didn’t even changed the diapers . It was just everything.
I’m just wondering if there is anything I could say to get some type of help out of him.
I tried reaching out to his mother but honestly his hole family is oblivious to his behaviour.

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