Mental health

I don’t really know what to do or why I’m writing this.. but my partner is really struggling again he was like this with our first child! I don’t know what to do! He says he hates his life and doesn’t want to be here, he looses he’s temper and throws and breaks things and I don’t want my boys being brought up around it! It also makes me sad that if we break up he’ll miss out of them growing up which I know will break him! I’m also scared he’ll end he’s life😔 but it’s got to the point where I have so much resentment towards him, I can’t stand being around him and I don’t actually think I love him anymore 😭I’m also scared to leave because I’ll have no where to go and I also won’t be able to survive finically on my own with 2 kids 😔

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He needs to seek help for his own mental health and anger issues/find a healthy coping mechanism. If your resentment continues after he seeks help, try couples counselling. You can’t stay with somebody out of fear or emotional blackmail they’ll hurt themselves, your children should be your priority and them growing up in this environment will do them no favours as they grow and develop more understanding. They will also pick up on your resentment towards him.

Hey, something happened similar with my husband.. and he had to leave for a bit (twice) - could it be that he needs a break away? Stay with a friend and re evaluate things ?
It sounds like he has very high stress levels and struggling.. I know it’s hard as us as mums are doing everything & struggling yet we have to push through!
I’ve realised though that men are very different.. they need to step back sometimes rather than push through

Here if you need to chat as I know how tough it can be x

It sounds like in the long run, leaving might be the best option for you and your children. It’s not ok for him to throw and break things around you or your children. That must be really scary for you all and it could end up getting worse/ he may intentionally or unintentionally hurt you or your children. Is there anyone you can talk to think more about how you could leave? A friend, family member or even health professional? I know there are some women’s charities and domestic violence charities that can help people think about what support they’re entitled to etc if they leave a relationship. I’m sorry I can’t be more help x

Hi ladies since this post we’ve chatted and we’ve both agree we aren’t happy anymore so after our holiday we wil separate, I know it’s done because I don’t feel sad, I feel sad for my boys, thank you for the advice x

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