Would you give your husband a hand job if he asked 3/4 weeks pp?

For context I have not had the easiest c-section recovery. 1st week pp I almost went into shock so don’t even remember it. 2nd week is a bit blurred, 3rd week back to back appointments so a lot of pressure, all still while recovering. This week just last night I was feeling feverish, my back is killing and my incision area was in so so much pain that I couldn’t even sleep in the same room as baby and he had the night watch.

When I said I’m not in the mood to give a HJ this morning he said “I’m not going to ask again my bad” and then I said you know there’s hormones involved and I’m completely switched off sexually at the moment I’m barely 4wpp… and he said “it’s not like you have birth with your hands” ….
I don’t even know what to say because this man has NEVER spoken to me like that. He’s always been very much in control sexually and this isn’t our first child!
I’m a bit disgusted atm. Am I wrong for turning him down?
Ps: I did offer tomorrow morning, when mentally I’m more prepared and he just shrugged me off

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Why should you feel forced now just to fulfil his needs, why Isnt he putting your needs and recovery first. So frustrating that men can be like this. They honestly have no clue about child birth nor the recovery. Sorry that you’re having to put up with this, please prioritise yourself and recovery first.

I'll probably slap a man in his face if he EVER asked or said something like that to me . Then I would be a single woman expeditiously

Um... what 😳 absolutely not.

I'm not doing anything sexual for my spouse while I'm healing from birth or any surgery I've had. If she asked we would need to sit down and talk about why that, for me, was disrespectful to ask during that time.

Ye no ....I mean I wouldn't be bothered with him asking because its just a question and men have needs too ect but omg the response !!! Wtaf !! The level of disrespect .. I'd have a serious chat with him about how he's made you feel and that it's really not acceptable xx

Ewwwwww. He sounds disgusting. You are only responsible for your recovery and respect of your own limits. He can deal with that himself.

I’m sure you’re too tired for that. Tell him to get a months subscription of porn hub and purchase him some KY jelly. You have got a more important human in your life to worry about. Men.

He'll be alright, girl.

Wow, I want to smack him for you. You have every right to be irritated.

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