Potty training

Beginning the dread of potty training - do you think I should use these upairy pants I’ve seen on instagram (they feel that they have weed/pooped but doesn’t leave the clean up mess on the floor - or just go for the normal pants strategy ?

Also, any tips to help the whole potty training process is very welcome !

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Do not buy Upairy. I bought them & my little boy had wet through them within an hour, but was still walking around happily in them 😐 I just put a pair of normal pants on him.

thank you for the feedback! This is exactly what was worrying me, that my toddler would just happily walk around with them on as if they were a nappy

I stayed home with my little one for a whole week left himbutt naked so he can feel when he done a pee. They need to get used to the sensation. Have potty super close to you and I would recommend reading ‘oh crap potty training everything you need to know’. This booked was recommended to me by a lot of mummy friends and was very useful. It’s not easy stay consistent if you are going to do it and deffo stay home for the first week. If you’re going to do it you need to do it properly xx

thank you! Definitely gona be grabbing the oh crap book! X

Goodluck and let us know how you get one :) xx

Any training pants are a no my son has peed thru so many different brands. I just let him be naked while at home and he goes in and goes pee. We still use pull-ups and diapers because he won’t tell us when he poops🙄 pee we got down but poop nope

oh bless you! This whole training process is so difficult 🫠I’m already dreading it

We did no nappy/ pants for the first few weeks, just let him be naked at home or commando when out and about! We found the pants felt too much like a nappy so it was confusing him.
Remember if it’s really hard and not working then your little one is not ready. Potty training is one of the things they need to feel ready to do as well as you. Don’t stress yourself if this is the case. You can always stop for a few weeks and try again ☺️

this is literally what I did today and yesterday because my sons the same I reckon he’ll see pants as a nappy! So far 2 wees and poop on the floor 🤣right near the potty !

How you know when they aren’t ready ?

that’s good progress though! Poop on the floor not ideal but at least he was almost at the right place 😅 I think it’s just more if they are happy to keep going and trying and not getting overly upset or stressed about it. Lots of praise, excitement and encouragement even when there’s accidents and hopefully you guys will nail it!

Thanks for the positivity! Literally asked because about an hour later he started getting really irritated about it, ripped down his start chart and tried to hide the potty😩 so didn’t know whether this was toddlers being toddlers or perhaps he’s not quite there etc in terms of readiness, I don’t wanna make this a traumatic thing if you get what I mean - this is hard stuff haha 🤣

bless, it’s quite an overwhelming thing for them and us 😅 all you can do is keep trying and if you feel he is really getting upset and stressed about it and distractions etc aren’t working, then taking a little break for a week or so won’t do any harm. He will get it in the end ☺️

thank you so much for the advice and really helping me keep calm😆 I feel like I’m just pressuring myself because he’ll be 3 in October ! But I gotta keep calm and just take it easy 🥰

no problem, it’s all just based on my own experience and I am no pro. Just winging it as best I can 😂 that’s still young and it sounds like he is picking it up so even if you need to take a breather for a week or two I’m sure he will sus it out soon enough ☺️ would also suggest potty training books, we read lots of them when we were doing it and it definitely helped!

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