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Mother In Law venting/advice

How much do I tell her??

My husband has been trying to cut the umbilical cord from his mom, he feels like he has to make her proud to feel better about himself and he’s trying to stop. He’s decided to go no contact, that was 8 months ago. He told his parents he needed space and they live 2 states away so we don’t see them much anyways. He also told them that I felt wronged by them so now they probably think his needing space is my fault. She doesn’t agree with the way we split up chores, she does everything for her husband to the point where she has severe health problems now. Like raising the kids, doing all the house chores while her kids play video games, and she wears it like a badge of honor. Her husband gets to throw fits and she just walks on egg shells around him until he stops or she appeases him. (Another reason we went no contact, my children are scared of his dad because they never know when he’s going to lose his temper.) She’s very non confrontational and is very kind but still very judgmental. I hold my husband accountable and we confront each other and she does not agree with that, a woman must just make her man happy and that’s her only job.
She texted me out of the blue and wants to set up a phone call to talk about our relationship (mine and hers) and not as my husbands parents, just as regular people. We haven’t spoken in 4 months, she called me out of the blue then too. What do I do??