I m.not clever,I don't get things and I feel ashamed.

I m a bit slow,I m also very anxious,I do really silly things,sometimes I think my brain doesn't work properly.I think that's why I caht progress with my career etc,i m onky teaching assistants and I feel like I don't do my job properly and I m never asked to take any new responsibilities...I hate being me...I m.nor attractive either,I have a big nose and wonky teethe and big belly after mu daughter...I feel like I will alwyas be stuck in my life

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God made us all perfect. God wants us all the way we are, Love. Don’t feel so down. I am sure you are beautiful

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I don't know you but you are probably more intelligent and beautiful than you believe you are, we sometimes see ourselves through very critical eyes.

But even if you are right, it is ok. We don't need to be the smartest people, or the most beautiful or calm. And thanks God ! We don't need to put so much more pressure in our lives than we already have.
If you are frustrated about your job, just ask directly to your superior to some feedback. Ask them what are the things they believe you need to put some more effort. What are they expecting from you so you can be better at your job.

We don't need to be perfect, we just need to try to be better and be kind while doing it. ❤️

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@Alexandra thank you for your kind words...it all gives me so much anxiety.i want to progress in life,like pass my driving test,but I don't get rules on the road,I m panicky and I forget what to do....its like this on most areas of my life.i feel so behind. It's a good idea to ask my boss about feedback..we do.have meetings every few months, and they are ok...thanks again

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Have you been tested for ADHD/autism/Aspergers?

Are you dyslexic or have dyspraxia?

Have you been formally diagnosed with anxiety? Any other mental health conditions?

As for driving, find an instructor who has experience in teaching people with learning disabilities and will have extra patience with you. It all takes time.

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@Neena insuspect I m autistic.Never had any formal diagnosis,I m sick of going to doctors who don't listen so I gave up....I definitely suffer with anxiety,I pick my skin,when i m at work i often get panic attach and get dizzy,I have socula anxiety..I just find it hard to get through to doctors..they gave me a website and that was that

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Do you have anyone (parent/friend/partner) who can come with you to the GP and advocate for you?

Or write down a list of everything you struggle with and take the list with you to an appointment so you don’t get fobbed off?

Or you could ask to see a different GP, or change practices altogether.

Getting a formal diagnosis is the first step in getting better help for you in all aspects of your life.

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@Neena thank you.no I don't.I on my own....just me and my daughter.i hate talking to doctors,especially lately it's all locum doctors so you see different one every time.....i alwyas feel like they look at me as if I making this up..

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