Terrible 3😩

SEND HELP!! I have a 3 year old son and mommies i am tired!!!!! Im tired of having to repeat myself a million and one times. He’s very defiant and also very emotional..meaning he whines alot😭 I always start with gentle parenting i even say please and beg him to not do certain things he knows hes not supposed to be doing. Then when i raise my voice i feel bad and he listens but it’s literally for all but 5 seconds LITERALLY. I cant even turn my back fully for him to do the thing again..He’s very intelligent and this age is crucial for him to be around men but unfortunately his dad isn’t in the picture. What can i do to get him to listen to me HELP

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Literally was just warned today about terrible 3’s mine is going through terrible 2’s good luck momma ❤️. I wish I could help

Girl my son was great at 3 he listened so well. His sister on the other hand is giving me a run for my money. She is only 2 but I get the having to repeat yourself over and over again and they still doing what you told them not to do. My son is in ABA and they have also taught me a few tricks when it comes to his sister. Repeat yourself again and if he continues to do it get up and tell me no, mommy asked you not to do that, if he continues repeat it a third time and then redirect him to something like playing, or coloring, cleaning up, or even sitting down and reading him a book. I hope this helps.

Sorry, but I laughed because I know exactly how you feel. Anyone who thinks the terrible 2s are bad, strap yourself in because the threenager stage is a whole other board game 😅

the threenager!!!! 😂

threenager is GENIUS 😭😭😩 casue wthhh!!!!

thank you for that. Im honestly curious to know if he has ADHD he’s supper hyper active and its funny at time but sh!t lil dude. He runs ALLL DAYYYYY🤣🤣😭

unfortunately for mine. this stage has lasted into the 4s 😵‍💫 it doesn’t matter what i say or do. gentle parenting or not. i just take things away when she doesn’t want to listen. like today. she missed out on the fun stuff at a bday party and wasn’t allowed anything with sugar. eventually she will learn to listen but until then she will live without things when her actions are completely unacceptable. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Bratbusters Parenting podcast is amazing! She also has IG and YouTube that I follow. Her techniques help soooo much!!!
https://open.spotify.com/show/2nBjXlZiCgLAZP4sLBli5e?si=f8YtrvrpSw2X9KDXYSgasQ

no it’s just being 3 years old lol! My son has ADHD but didn’t start showing signs till he was 4 1/2 wasn’t diagnosed till he was 6.

Yea that’s what i think. I only assume he will or may have it is because he dad does🤣

noooooo😭😭😣

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I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

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Has anyone else been told it won’t start until May?

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How would you react?